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LORD, FOR A BLISSFUL MARRIAGE! (FOR THE SINGLES)

JUICY JULY 2023

DAY 15 

THEME: LORD, FOR A BLISSFUL MARRIAGE! (FOR THE SINGLES)

TEXT: GENESIS 2:18

 

This is Day 15 of the Juicy July 2023 prayer programme and what a day to look at what we will be looking at today. 

 

MARRIAGE! 

 

A blissful marriage!

 

There rarely is a woman who doesn’t think of, dream of, pray for or desire a good marriage. 

 

This is because when you look at the very essence for which God made a woman, it is directly linked to marriage. Take it or leave it. 

 

Well, I am not just talking off my mind or head. Go to the Scriptures and you will see it there. 

 

Genesis 2:18 says ‘And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.’

 

That was why the woman was made! 

 

1 Corinthians 11:8-9 says ‘For the man is not of the woman: but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.’

 

This is the Scriptures. 

 

And it is true. 

 

This is why our hearts yearn for a marriage. 

 

This is why we desire to get it right. 

 

This is why our hearts go ‘awwwwnnn’ when we see affections and marital love. 

 

We also want to experience it. We also want to be held, loved and cared for. 

 

However, we look around and we realize that not everyone has this sweet marriage that we daydream about. 

 

We see that so many homes are upside down. So many homes aren’t what the Lord says they should be like. 

 

That was not how the Lord intended it to be..

 

God created a flawless, holy place. A place of joy and bliss. A place where Heaven and earth met together. A place of fellowship. 

 

The place called, EDEN! 

 

A place where God visited physically to abide with the man and woman. 

 

It was after the creation of this blissful place that he created the man, Adam.

 

To compliment and help him, he made Eve! 

 

Then, He brought them both into this BLISS that He had created. 

 

It was bliss first, before marriage! 

 

What a gracious God we serve! 

 

Not only that. He also created a hierarchy that way. A hierarchy that made God first, the man second, the woman third. 

 

The man is directly submissive to God and the woman is directly submissive to the man. Right? 

 

They both were in this bliss. In this joy. In this beauty. In this amazing Holiness. In this glorious love. In this abiding peace of God. 

 

Until….

 

The Devil visited! 

 

Then, he wasn’t happy with the dominion God had given to these two. He wasn’t happy that they had the power of reproduction. He wasn’t happy that they were enjoying constant fellowship. He wasn’t happy that they were made in the image of God. He wasn’t happy that God had given them authority! He wasn’t happy about the hierarchy! 

 

So, he came into the garden and went to the bottom of the hierarchy. He went to chat with her about the One that is at the top of the hierarchy. 

 

‘Eve, is it true say your Oga wey dey for top say make you no chop that fruit?’

 

Before you know it, the dominion was taken!

 

As soon as Eve agreed with God’s enemy, took a bite, took the leadership of the home, called her husband aside also and gave him to eat it, the hierarchy was reversed. 

 

Satan became the one in charge. The woman was then right after him. Putting the man at the end of the ladder. 

 

God was no longer in the picture. 

 

The will and the plan of the Lord had been messed up with. 

 

The atmosphere in the blissful Eden changed. 

 

The Devil was laughing at His Maker hysterically. 

 

The woman had suddenly gone into hiding. 

 

The man was nowhere to be found. 

 

Then, God called out to the one who was representing the home. 

 

The one to whom he had given the keys of the home to. 

 

The man! 

 

‘Adam! Adam! Where are you?’

 

‘Lord, I am sorry. I heard you call but I couldn’t answer because I am naked’

 

‘Naked? What happened to the clothing of glory that I had clothed you with? Have you eaten the fruit that robs one of my glory? The one I asked you not to eat?’

 

‘Well, yes, Lord. The one who You gave to me when I was peacefully on my own. The one You said should come and help me, when it was not like I complained to you that I needed anyone. Yeah, she brought the fruit to me ‘

 

‘And you ate it, Adam?’

 

‘Erm, yes, I did!’

 

‘Adam! I gave you an instruction for your home, marriage and life. But you foolishly sat down idly, folding your arms and allowing the woman you should be leading lead you!  You watched her listening to the devil and watched as she gave the dominion over . And you sit down there blaming me for giving you a woman? Is it now my fault?’

 

‘Erm, erm….’

 

‘Woman, why have you done this?’

 

‘Ah, the devil came and gave me to eat. He said you were lying and that we won’t die when we eat it. He said….’.

 

‘How dare you listen to a snake? An ordinary snake? A defeated snake? You think you are still alive because you can still talk? You are dead! The glory is dead! The fellowship you enjoyed with me is dead! The glory you were wearing as clothing before which didn’t make you know you were naked is stripped off and dead! I meant it when I said you would die! And now see, you would no longer be immortal. You were made from the dust and you will return there.’

 

‘And you Adam, because you listened to your wife. Because you put her first instead of me. Because you sat down idle while she led you. And because you allowed her to have a chat with my enemy. I have cursed the ground now. You need to work terribly hard now. You will now struggle. You will run around for your family till you die. You don’t work, no food for you. You need to be in charge of providing for your home. You will need to work work work work and sweat and carry everything on your head henceforth’

 

‘And you woman, because you didn’t stay in your place. Because you usurped the authority. Because you led when you should be led. Because you obeyed my enemy, and also caused your husband to sin with you, now when you want to give birth, you will go through terrible pain!’

 

‘Ah, my God!’

 

‘Not only that, marriage is no longer a cooperative enterprise for both of you. It is now a power tussle. It has become a struggle for dominance between both of you. You’d desire to dominate him but he shall rule over you! 

 

God also gave a judgment to the snake. We will look at that later on. 

 

To seal it all up, you know what God did???

 

He sent them out of the bliss!!!

 

He uprooted them from the automatic love, joy, bliss and all He had marvelously prepared for them! 

 

Genesis 3 : 23 says: So the Lord God banished Adam and his wife from the Garden of Eden, and he sent Adam out to cultivate the ground from which he had been made.

 

Genesis 3 : 24 says: After banishing them from the garden, the Lord God stationed mighty angelic beings to the east of Eden. And a flaming sword flashed back and forth, guarding the way to the tree of life.

 

He removed them far from the bliss and from HOME where the inner content was automatic. And he guarded it so they wouldn’t return! 

 

Since they decided not to follow the blueprint of God’s Will….

 

Since they decided to do marriage their own way….

 

Since the divine hierarchy was nothing to write home about in their marriage….

 

He sent them out to go do it THEIR OWN WAY! 

 

Blissful Eden is only for people who will do it MY OWN WAY!

 

No room for disobedience here! 

 

No room for chatting with the devil here! 

 

No room for questioning what God had said here! 

 

No room for husband lazing around while the wife leads here! 

 

If I, THE LORD YOUR GOD won’t be the Lord of every part of your home, I’d rather not be Lord at all!!!!

 

And so, can you see why we are here? 

 

We say ‘Oh Lord, for a blissful marriage!’ but bliss is only in EDEN! 

 

Are you ready to abide by the terms? 

 

If you are ready to abide by the terms of Eden, you can go back today! 

 

Many now enjoy the bliss of Eden again in their marriages. 

 

Did you say how? 

 

Through the verdict, God pronounced on the snake!!!!!

 

Halleluyah!!!!!

 

And God faced the snake and said:

‘….I’m declaring war between you and the Woman, between your offspring and hers. He’ll wound your head, you’ll wound his heel.”’

 

Who is the ‘He’ being spoken about in that verse??

 

Call His name, let me hear!!!!

 

JESUS!!!!

 

Oh, I’ve got tears in my eyes right now!!!

 

Jesus! Our Jesus!

 

God had to make Jesus come through a woman! 

 

A cursed woman! 

 

He put a holy seed into a cursed woman. And this holy seed became a man like you and I. 

 

He had all the opportunities to sin but He didn’t. 

 

Even when the snake visited Him like He did visit Eden, Jesus refused to bow as the first Adam did! He instead powerfully resisted Him! 

 

But the devil wounded his heel indeed as the Holy one went to Calvary and was slain!

 

And as his sinless blood greeted the cursed earth; and his voice of victory echoed in the earth…IT IS FINISHED!!!!

 

There and then, the seed of the woman crushed the head of the serpent!!!!

 

And the Scripture was fulfilled!

 

Halleluyah!!!

 

Herein lies our victory! 

 

In here dwells our hope! 

 

And now, through that Blood, we have access back to Eden, if we can prove to the Lord that we will stick to the terms! 

 

If we can prove to God that we are going into marriage for Him, not for us…

 

We’d have the keys back! 

 

The keys of bliss! 

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Let’s sing our first song for today: 

 

DISCOVER GOD’S PERFECT WILL by Rico Angelo

(Download here)

 

IN THIS WORLD WE’LL FIND, THERE’S ALWAYS SOMETHING NEW; 

PEOPLE LOST AND BLIND, BELIEVE THOSE THINGS ARE TRUE.

SEARCHING HERE AND THERE, THEY DON’T KNOW WHAT IS RIGHT; 

THEY DON’T EVEN CARE THAT GOD’S WORD IS THE LIGHT.

GOD HAS HIS OWN PLAN AND PURPOSE FOR US ALL; 

IT’S WHERE WE CAN STAND AND LISTEN TO HIS CALL. 

IF WE LOVE THE LORD, OBEDIENCE IS OUR GOAL; 

WE CAN KNOW HIM MORE AND WE CAN CONQUER ALL…

 

Chorus:

 

WE MAY NOT KNOW WHAT IS AHEAD OF US; 

AND WE MAY NOT CHANGE WHAT IS BEHIND US. 

BUT CERTAINLY WE CAN JUST MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICE 

WE CAN FOLLOW AND JUST TRUST THE RIGHT VOICE. 

THERE WE’LL SURELY FIND A JOY THAT’S REAL; 

WHEN WE DISCOVER GOD’S PERFECT WILL.

EVERY WORD OF GOD REVEALS HIS WILL FOR US; 

LET US ALL BE GLAD THAT WE CAN HOPE AND TRUST. 

HIS PRINCIPLES ENDURE THROUGHOUT THE TEST OF TIME;

HIS PROMISES ARE SURE, AND THESE ARE YOURS AND MINE.

WE WHO HAVE BEEN SAVED BY GRACE THROUGH FAITH ALONE;

WE CAN DO ALL THINGS ‘CAUSE GOD CALLED US “HIS OWN”,

WE CAN SERVE HIM MORE, SURRENDERED TO HIS WILL; 

SEPARATED FOR OUR GOD WHO LOVES US STILL… 

 

WE MAY NOT KNOW WHAT IS AHEAD OF US; 

AND WE MAY NOT CHANGE WHAT IS BEHIND US. 

BUT CERTAINLY WE CAN JUST MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICE 

WE CAN FOLLOW AND JUST TRUST THE RIGHT VOICE. 

THERE WE’LL SURELY FIND A JOY THAT’S REAL; 

WHEN WE DISCOVER GOD’S PERFECT WILL.

 

I MUST LET GO OF ALL MY PLANS THAT BRING ME STRIFE

 

I MUST LET GOD DIRECT MY LIFE!!!

 

WE MAY NOT KNOW WHAT IS AHEAD OF US; 

AND WE MAY NOT CHANGE WHAT IS BEHIND US. 

BUT CERTAINLY WE CAN JUST MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICE 

WE CAN FOLLOW AND JUST TRUST THE RIGHT VOICE. 

THERE WE’LL SURELY FIND A JOY THAT’S REAL; 

WHEN WE DISCOVER GOD’S PERFECT WILL.

 

THERE WE’LL SURELY FIND A JOY THAT’S REAL; 

WHEN WE DISCOVER GOD’S PERFECT WILL. GOD’S PERFECT WILL!!!

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Welcome back! 

 

Such a deep deep song! 

 

The songs in this bulletin, kindly make sure you treasure them. They are biblical and so priceless. 

 

So, marriage is a big deal to the Lord! 

 

Do you know the first miracle God performed? 

 

It was at a wedding! 

 

Do you know what God likens a godly marriage to? 

 

The relationship between Christ and the church!!!

 

What! 

 

Marriage is a big deal to God! 

 

And He needs us to see it as a big deal! 

 

Do you know an event that will happen to the saints and Christ after life is over? 

 

The MARRIAGE supper of the lamb! 

 

This is why as a single, you should understand that marriage means so much to God more than you read in fairytales and TV series. 

 

The Lord is waiting on your marriage to be the EDEN-styled marriage. 

 

In an EDEN-styled marriage, these things are found:

Bliss 

Daily Fellowship with God 

Submission to God

Surplus supplies

Peace

Oneness between the couple

Regard for the hierarchy

Enmity for the Devil

Nakedness 

 

Oh what a wonderful life this is! 

 

Oh what a life God intends for us! 

 

Oh what a bastard the Devil is to even try to rob us of these lovely gifts! 

 

Before we go on, what exactly is this bliss we have been talking about? 

 

This is a feeling that so many people have not felt before. 

 

Even I, for the first time experienced bliss a few months ago. It left me on fire. I broke out in tongues many times, tears rolling down my face, His breath blowing over me.

 

It is an indescribable feeling! 

 

So surreal! 

 

That lady called ‘bliss’ I believe is locked in obedience. 

 

Oh my!

 

Obedience! 

 

I saw somewhere recently that the love language of God is OBEDIENCE and I concur!

 

It is even in the scriptures. 

 

If you love me, keep my command! 

 

Obey my command, if you truly love Me! 

 

Ayayayayaya

 

I felt bliss over my spirit, soul and body as I intentionally yielded my life over to obedience. And say ‘Lord, not what I want but what You want!’

 

He gives bliss as soon as you step your feet on obedience! 

 

I speak from a place of experience! 

 

I am actually speaking from a place of bliss right now, sisters. 

 

I desire you to have this feeling and even greater. 

 

I want you to look at your man and just break out in singing even though he is an imperfect man just like you. 

 

But what is bliss? 

 

No dictionary can explain it though. 

 

It is better experienced than defined. Ayayayyayayaya

 

But what does the dictionary say about it? 

 

The Merriam-Webster dictionary defined blissful to mean ‘full of, marked by, or causing complete happiness’. 

 

I am not satisfied with this definition though. 

 

Happiness is of this world. 

 

Bliss is from the world yonder! 

 

The world beyond here! 

 

Heaven!

 

I checked a Bible dictionary though and it says: 

 

‘….the highest degree of happiness; blessedness; exalted felicity; heavenly joy’

 

Oh that is better. 

 

Highest degree….I love that! 

 

Heavenly joy! 

 

Many of us have not felt joy before. 

 

We have all had happiness and all. Glory be to God. 

 

But you know joy, ehn, it is simply scarce! 

 

And to worsen it, in marriage, so many are struggling. They are discontented. They are not happy, talkless of being joyful. Talkless of having the highest degree of joy! 

 

Ayayayayyayayya

 

Bliss!!!

 

To me, it feels like a breeze over my body. It is a mixture of joy and peace. It draws tears from my eyes, pours more love for my husband into my heart, gives me huge contentment for all we have and makes me burst out singing and crying in holy awe of God! 

 

Yeah, something like that. 

 

I just can’t put it into words! 

 

Joy is in the heart. Happiness is on the face. Bliss is on the heart, face, body, soul, spirit! 

 

Joy is long lasting. Happiness is of the moment. Bliss is higher than the combination of both. 

 

Joy transcends happenings around. Happiness reacts to things around. Happiness is felt when ‘Oh, he helped me with the chores’ or ‘Oh, he got me a gift!’ or ‘Oh, we have a child on the way’

 

But bliss is soooooo deep! Even though they have no food at home. Even though he couldn’t afford to surprise me for my birthday. Even though we are waiting for the fruit of the womb. 

 

It is rooted in God! 

 

It is such a high standard that we all should press onward towards! 

 

Lay your hand on your head and quickly make this decree in the name of Jesus:

 

MY MARRIAGE SHALL BE FULL OF BLISS. 

 

THE MARK OF BLISS SHALL BE ALL AROUND IT. 

 

EVERYONE WHO COMES IN CONTACT WITH MY MARRIAGE, MY FAMILY SHALL BE TOUCHED BY DIVINE BLISS!

 

In the Mighty Name of Jesus Christ! Amen! 

 

WHAT ARE THE THINGS THAT CAN ROB US OF THIS BEAUTIFUL EXPERIENCE?

SIN: 

All have sinned and come short of the GLORY OF GOD. The Glory of Eden. The glorious bliss! 

 

To have a blissful marriage, sin has to be dealt with. Because as a single, if you want to be led of the Lord into a blissful Eden, sin cannot enter there! 

 

God cannot entrust you with His Eden when you are stained with inquiries. 

 

Isaiah 1:18 is your solution: Come now, let us reason together, says the LORD: though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red like crimson, they shall become like wool.

 

So, come to the Lord Jesus. Tell Him of those sins that are cheating you. Ask the Lord to forgive you. Make a decision never to return to those sins. Tell Him to help you stay true to your words. Begin to walk in righteousness by DAILY walking with the Lord. Making SUBSTANTIAL time to pray and study His Word! 

 

IDOLS: To have a blissful home, you must stop trusting yourself. You must stop trusting your taste. You must even stop having those tastes and specs that you are dictating to the Lord! Tell the Lord to align your taste with us so you will stop admiring death because it looks glittering to your eyes! 

 

He must be tall

 

He must be dark

 

He must have a PhD

 

He must be living abroad

 

He must have many followers online

 

He must be holding a huge position in the church/fellowship

 

He must be from my tribe

 

He must be a white man

 

He must be this and that.

 

A dead man cannot start dictating things when he is dead! Be dead to yourself, your feelings and desires and allow the Lord fit you into where He knows you should be! 

 

Adam was completely sedated when the Lord brought him his wife. You release yourself to be made for this Adam! 

 

We will reach the area of making soon….

 

Idols will make you make mistakes! Trust the Lord and in His bliss, you will find all the perfect man who loves you so much and pulls you closer to God! 

 

LACK OF TRUST IN GOD

Many of us have not known God and who we do not know, we cannot trust. When we hear of Him and His works, they probably sound like story books in our ears. 

 

But excuse me ma, the Lord is real!!

 

Ask Him to reveal Himself to you! 

 

Ask humbly, not so that you can boast about it. And you will see Him! 

 

We need to trust God and understand that He is our Maker. And that our Maker won’t give us rubbish! 

 

Trust in Him! Go to sleep! You don’t need to lift an arm! 

 

I know my generation says you should show yourself, ask a man out, join a dating app, parade yourself like a peahen before a peacock, flapping your feathers and wings so you can be seen. Hahaha, those are worldly methods being dished out. Methods that might rob you of bliss!

 

LACK OF THE HOLY SPIRIT BAPTISM: 

Ah, see, the fact is, without the Holy Spirit, you cannot have bliss. This is the truth! See, joy, the younger sister of Bliss is part of the fruit of the Spirit. You don’t have joy yet and you want to experience bliss? It doesn’t work that way.

 

Jesus did not start his ministry until the Holy Spirit came!

 

As John the Baptist announced Him in John chapter 1 as the Lamb of God, and He dipped Him into the waters, the Holy Spirit came upon Him! 

 

And you want to know how Christ lived sinlessly in this world? 

 

Matthew 4:1 says ‘Then Jesus was led by the Spirit…’

 

Luke 4:1 also says ‘Then Jesus, full of the Holy Spirit, returned from the Jordan River. He was led by the Spirit in the wilderness’

 

Full of the Spirit!

 

Led by the Spirit!

 

That was Jesus! 

 

To make it, He had to CONSISTENTLY be FULL OF and LED BY the Spirit of God. 

 

What are you full of sisters??

 

What leads you? 

 

What commands your dressing? Your speech? Your character? Your actions? Your thoughts? 

 

How then can you enjoy the bliss of the Lord? 

 

You need the Holy Spirit! 

 

Tarry until you receive Him! 

 

And wait to receive Him, not for a selfish motive (He won’t give you that way) 

 

Let it come from a hunger and a desire that cries ‘I can’t do life without You’

 

That’s the cry that cannot be denied! 

 

LOVE FOR THE WORLD:

Love for the world will not allow you to love God. If you desire the way the world runs its marriages. Where husbands are at the bottom of the ladder and women are the boss ladies, bliss will be far. If you love the things of this world, you will not be able to keep the words of the Lord. And once there is disobedience, bliss will not be found! 

 

LIES OF THE DEVIL

The Devil tells a lot of lies about marriages now that so many people have swallowed. If you believe anything contrary to the Scriptures, you have been fed with the devil’s lies. And yielding to the devil’s lie was what chased Eve and her husband from EDEN in the first place! Have you swallowed any lies of the devil? Lies like: 

Nothing like submission when I get married. He submits to me, I submit to him!

I am not planning to be one with my husband. My money is mine. His is his!

It is my body. I decide what I want to do with it. 

He is not my lord! Why should I obey him? 

All these lies and more are from the spirit of REBELLION! They are fighting the DIVINE ORDER! They will rob you of the bliss you so desire!

 

HATRED FOR MEN AND EVERYTHING MANLY

This is the order of the day now. Many Christian ladies hate the mention of man, masculinity, submission, patriarchy, headship and so on. Hmmmmm….your heart needs to be purged because these will rob you of the bliss! It is contrary to the Will of God! It is directly fighting God! 

 

WALLS

These are some destructive measures we have put in place to ‘protect’ us so we do not experience what our moms, aunties, neighbors, pastor’s wives etc passed through in the hands of their husbands. 

 

These walls came into our lives as a result of our backgrounds and personal experiences. 

 

Sorry about all you have had to go through but if you don’t pull down the walls you’ve built around yourself, it might collapse against you in marriage. 

 

BLISS thrives in FREEDOM. It needs a large place to express itself. It cannot be confined in darkness!

 

PRAYERLESSNESS

Well, if you don’t pray, how can you know God’s mind? God’s will and plan is hidden in prayers. You need to ride on the wings of prayers into your desired bliss. 

 

Build your prayer life, dear sister! Arise and start building. It is very simple. Just decide to pray for a certain amount of minutes/hours everyday. Keep to that and soon you’d see yourself growing in it. 

 

Don’t let anything stop you from praying. When you fail once, try again. If sin comes knocking and you are defeated by it, pull yourself up instantly and visit the Cross again. He’d be right there, waiting to cleanse you again and give you another chance. He doesn’t have a last chance. His mercies endure forever. 

 

So, keep praying, sisters! And rely on the Holy Spirit so you don’t waste your time everyday praying things that are outside His Will! 

 

LACK OF BIBLE TIME

Many Christians do not read their Bibles! See, you won’t know anything about God’s Will. God’s mind. God’s commands. God’s Word, if you do not study your Bible! 

 

Start a relationship with your Bible today. Pick it line by line. Underline the striking verses. Memorize them. Use them when you pray. Preach it with others. Love the Scriptures. That’s how to grow. Just start! Give it twenty minutes for a start and ensure you don’t miss a day. 

 

You do all these things and see if you won’t be led into the perfect Will of God!

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Let’s take this song before we go on:

 

WHATEVER YOUR PLAN IS by Josie Buchanan

(Download here)

You alone can hold

This heart and all my hope

You’re the author and the architect

 

of flesh and bone

My future and my past

This life and all my plans

I’m surrendered on the altar

light the flame again

 

Whatever your plan is

You will make a way for it

whatever your will is

Come and do it here

I trust that you will know

where my feet should go

And I never have to second guess

The word You spoke

 

And if I’ve lost Your path

And strayed from what You said

I’m surrendered on the altar

light the flame again

 

Every corner of my heart

Take your place in every part

Have your way

Your ways have never failed me once

 

Though it costs me everything

I’ll still follow where You lead

Have your way

Your ways have never failed me once

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When God gave me Genesis 2:18 for you, I didn’t first understand. I thought it was just not appropriate for what I had in mind. Then He told me, “For her to have a blissful marriage, there’s a making that needs to be done”

 

Some are patiently going through the making process…

 

Some have skipped the making process.

 

Some are arguing with the Maker and delaying the process.

 

HA! JESUS, MAKE ME! BREAK ME! SHAPE ME! So I can birth that Blissful Home You have ordained for me.

 

Take your Bible and open that verse. 

 

Genesis 2:18 says ‘The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

 

We will be focusing on the second part.

 

I will make a helper suitable for him

 

A blissful marriage is one where the wife has been made to suit the husband. 

 

A home where the couple fits perfectly. 

 

There is pure bliss in such a home because every weakness is covered by strength in the other. 

 

Covered graciously and joyfully.

 

So how does one become suitable? 

 

To be suitable implies an answering to requirements or demands.

 

So how do I become an answer to the needs of a man I have never met! 

 

A man that I’m just getting to know!? 

 

A man that probably doesn’t even know  all that he needs sef!?

 

He will MAKE you!

 

You seem to be arguing with God. 

 

”Lord, I’m not ready” 

 

“Lord, this part and this part of my life is not yet settled” 

 

“Lord, the plan was to have completed this and done that before Bro will come o”

 

Release yourself to be made!!!!

 

Don’t waste this preparation process!

 

Oh! Or are you the one that skipped the process?

 

God has put different opportunities in your path. Opportunities to grow financially, spiritually, character-wise, etc but you have been too lazy, too busy, too focused on all the wrong things? 

 

I won’t sugarcoat for you sis. Here is what He says;

 

Changing church so you can be ‘strategically placed’, attending ‘get-togethers’ for the sake of visibility and nurturing undefined and unwise close relationships with men who meet your criteria ‘just in case he is the one’ is not the way!

 

These human methods don’t promise bliss!

 

Go back to God. 

 

Stay in the process. 

 

Get your bliss!

 

That’s the order!!!!

 

Right! You are the one who has been patiently growing in the Spirit. Crying, “Abba, I need more of You” 

 

Well, Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be satisfied!

 

You are being made for bliss! 

 

For heavenly joy! 

 

Made to be a suitable helper! 

 

Made to be a help that meets the needs for one of His princes!

 

For a blissful marriage, there is a making!

 

Now that we have settled that. 

 

We can approach the throne of grace to cry Abba Father!

 

SECTION A

One thing that can hinder your blissful marriage is the state of your heart. 

 

Is your heart fixed on the Giver or on the gift? 

 

Is your heart free or filled with idols? 

 

Is your heart hard with unbiblical principles or soft/malleable with biblical precepts?  

 

God is the Author of a blissful marriage, won’t you surrender all your desires to Him?

 

LET’S TAKE THIS SONG:

 

Come and Tear Down the Walls by REVERE, David & Nicole Binion

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Come and tear down the walls I’ve built up

Every wall I’ve built up

Every wall I’ve built up

Cause You deserve every piece of my heart

Every piece of my heart

Every piece of my heart

Lord, I am trusting that You are a faithful father

 

And all that You have, it is good

You’re a generous giver

Your love’s like no other

Won’t You come and break through to me

Over and over and over again

I am bringing my heart to You with open hands

Closer and closer You’re drawing me in

As the depths of my heart lay before You again

 

Come and tear down the walls I’ve built up

Every wall I’ve built up

Every wall I’ve built up

Cause You deserve every piece of my heart

Every piece of my heart

Every piece of my heart

Over and over and over again

I am bringing my heart to You with open hands

Closer and closer You’re drawing me in

As the depths of my heart lay before You again

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I want to believe this song is tearing you down already. I want to believe you have prayer points from it already. 

 

If you don’t, sing it again and again till you have many points to raise to God in prayer from it. 

 

When you are done, say these prayers:

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Thank You Lord for the beautiful gift of Eden, Lord! 

 

Today, I have been made to realize that Eden was even made before marriage. That bliss was made before marriage. Oh Lord, everything that wants to hinder my marriage or hinder our entrance into the provided bliss, I destroy by fire in the Mighty Name of Jesus Christ! 

 

Satan, you might have failed over the marriage of Adam and Eve but hey, I have been redeemed by the Blood of the lamb. You will not succeed at having my own marriage in the Mighty Name of Jesus Christ! 

 

Lord, I desire your will. Break every wall, every idol that is hindering me from seeing, knowing or accepting Your will. 

 

Take over my heart Lord and take away every worldly principle that I have taken in one way or another, Lord. 

 

Oh Lord Jesus, help me to stop interacting with or chatting with the devil whether on the social media, in my head or anywhere else! 

 

Friends, mentors, pieces and families that the devil has prepared to use to chase me out of the Eden you have prepared for me, oh Lord, pull us apart. Shield me from them. And help me to resist all lies from the pity of Hell in the Mighty Name of Jesus Christ! 

 

Oh Lord, I confess I do not know anything about marriage at all. Can you please start to teach me? I am certain that only your teachings for me at this stage can lead me into marital bliss. Teach me Lord and help me to be taught! Help me to accept Biblical, Godly training oh Daddy. 

 

Send to me guides, teachers and mentors that will lead me to Eden oh Lord. 

 

Break strongholds in my head/mind, dear Saviours. 

 

Establish Your Word in my heart Lord.

 

Help me to pray, study Your Word and get into a real, unfeigned relationship with You, Daddy. 

 

I trust You Lord, help me to trust You more in the Mighty Name of Jesus Christ.

 

Lord open my eyes to see the goodness of the gift (my husband) when he comes.

 

Now, sing this song prayerfully:

 

OCEANS by Hillsong

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You call me out upon the waters

The great unknown where feet may fail

And there I find You in the mystery

In oceans deep my faith will stand

And I will call upon Your Name

 

And keep my eyes above the waves

When oceans rise

My soul will rest in Your embrace

For I am Yours and You are mine

Your grace abounds in deepest waters

 

Your sovereign hand will be my guide

Where feet may fail and fear surrounds me

You’ve never failed and You won’t start now

So I will call upon Your Name

 

And keep my eyes above the waves

When oceans rise

My soul will rest in Your embrace

For I am Yours and You are mine, oh

And You are mine, oh

 

Spirit lead me where my trust is without borders

Let me walk upon the waters

Wherever You would call me

Take me deeper than my feet could ever wander

And my faith will be made stronger

In the presence of my Saviour

 

Spirit lead me where my trust is without borders

Let me walk upon the waters

Wherever You would call me

Take me deeper than my feet could ever wander

And my faith will be made stronger

In the presence of my Saviour

 

Spirit lead me where my trust is without borders

Let me walk upon the waters

Wherever You would call me

Take me deeper than my feet could ever wander

And my faith will be made stronger

In the presence of my Saviour

 

Spirit lead me where my trust is without borders

Let me walk upon the waters

Wherever You would call me

Take me deeper than my feet could ever wander

And my faith will be made stronger

In the presence of my Saviour

 

Spirit lead me where my trust is without borders

Let me walk upon the waters

Wherever You would call me

Take me deeper than my feet could ever wander

And my faith will be made stronger

In the presence of my Saviour

 

Spirit lead me where my trust is without borders

Let me walk upon the waters

Wherever You would call me

Take me deeper than my feet could ever wander

And my faith will be made stronger

In the presence of my Saviour

I will call upon Your Name

Keep my eyes above the waves

My soul will rest in Your embrace

I am Yours and You are mine

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Section C

Cry hard: Oh Lord, prepare me for Eden, Lord!!

 

Jesus, prepare my husband for Eden, Lord wherever He is. 

 

Oh God, any hidden disobedience and idol in my life or his life that might make us unworthy to dwell in Eden, reveal them and wash them away by Your mercies in the Mighty Name of Jesus Christ. 

 

Help me grow spiritually because I have realized that this is the secret to a happy home in the Mighty Name of Jesus! 

 

Lord, help me cultivate godly character and develop the qualities necessary for a healthy and joyful marriage in the Mighty Name of Jesus Christ.

 

Teach me patience, kindness, forgiveness, and selflessness, that I may be a blessing to my future spouse in the Mighty Name of Jesus Christ. 

 

Lord, take away selfishness from my life!!!

 

Take down the walls I have built around myself, Lord. 

 

Heavenly Father, I seek Your guidance in choosing the person that You have prepared me for. Help me not to choose by flesh or sight or feelings or calculation or pressure in the Mighty Name of Jesus Christ. 

 

Lead me to choose by Your leading only. Help me to hear You and understand when You speak to me Lord. 

 

Lord, in Your own perfect timing, bring my husband to me in the Mighty Name of Jesus. 

 

I promise oh Lord to be a peace-bearer to the son that you give to me Lord. 

 

Lord, it will all be for You. I mean it, Lord. Therefore, Father, make me a blissful home for Yourself in the Mighty Name of Jesus Christ. 

 

Father, give me one of Your precious sons!!!! (7x) 

 

Lord, please teach me humility, obedience and submission because I know in these lies bliss in the Mighty Name of Jesus Christ. 

 

Father, I promise not to lord it over my husband in marriage. Please help my resolve, oh Lord. 

 

Father, I pray for a godly and harmonious family life. May our home be a place of love, peace, and spiritual growth. 

 

Continue to pray as you are led.

 

 

NOW PROPHESY: 

 

I get it right in marriage. 

 

I have no ordinary marriage. 

 

I have no cursed marriage. 

 

My home shall thrive in daily, consistent obedience to God.

 

My home shall be an Eden! 

 

My home shall be a place for the Lord’s feet and the Lord said He’d make the place of His feet glorious. He will make my home glorious! 

 

My home shall enjoy daily fellowship! 

 

My home shall be blissful! 

 

I receive the grace to be humble! 

 

I receive the grace to follow the Divine blueprint of God for my marriage. 

 

Continue to prophesy what you desire in your marriage. 

 

When you are done, SING THIS SONG JOYFULLY AS A CONNECTION TO THE TESTIMONY YOU ARE AWAITING. SING IT, IMAGINING THE AMAZING MAN GOD HAS PROVIDED FOR YOU STANDING RIGHT BESIDE YOU. MAY YOUR CONFESSION BE YOUR REALITY! 

 

HE HEARD ME FROM ABOVE by Mrs. Yaks

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I didn’t want an ordinary love or lover

 

And I knew the only way is God

 

So I went to Him

 

I cried to Him

 

I fasted and prayed

 

Then He told me

 

He had heard me

 

What joy! 

 

 

 

(CHORUS)

 

He heard me from above 

 

And He gave me His best

 

He heard me from on high

 

And He brought me into His rest

 

Oh what joy it is to know

 

That He would lead His own

 

If only He would bring the case to Him- above!

 

 

 

VERSE 2

 

So, that day, I waited anxiously to see him

 

And behold, there He stood face-to-face

 

So I looked at him

 

My heart screaming- So this God is true!

 

Then, he told me, ‘Hello Lizzy, here’s David!’ 

 

 

 

(Chorus)

 

 

 

VERSE 3 

 

My dear Lord, you really are so rich in mercy

 

Who am I that You are kind to me

 

Here I can’t believe

 

This huge treasure, this king Lord is mine

 

Apparently, You’re a giver of good gifts. 

 

 

 

(Chorus)

 

 

 

VERSE 4

 

My darling husband you surely are above all

 

I’m so glad I really prayed for you

 

You’re a great leader

 

A great lover

 

A good head to me

 

Here I promise to honor you the more

 

 

 

(Chorus)

 

See you in the house for the Bible Study! 

 

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