LET ME GIVE YOU MARRIAGE, DAUGHTER!

JUICY JULY 2025: ABBA FATHER

DAY 18: LET ME GIVE YOU MARRIAGE, DAUGHTER!

TEXT: ISAIAH 34:16; PROVERBS 19:14

BIBLE STUDY: JOHN 18

 

Welcome to Day 18 of Juicy July 2025. We are here again in the secret place, the Holy Place where our hearts commune with the Lover of our souls. He is the God of all flesh, our Source, our Sustainer, and our Sure Foundation. Open your mouth right there where you are and begin to exalt Him. Worship the One who chose you before time began. Lift your voice and tell Him how much you adore Him, how much you long for Him, how desperate you are to walk in step with His perfect will. Let your heart rise in surrender. Yes, Abba, we belong to You!

OPENING PRAYER

Abba Father, we invite You into today’s session. Grant us Access, Abba! Take over. Take the whole atmosphere. Saturate this moment with Your presence, Lord. Break every chain, raise every weary heart, and fill us with Your fire again. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.

 

FIRST: My sisters!!! He has done it again o🎉🎉🙌 Juicy July has been packed with so much blessings. God has heard our prayers, He has granted my heart desires. Few days ago, I sent a prayer request here, asking God’s daughters to join me in prayers, I submitted an application for a workshop happening outside Nigeria, highly competitive, it is international, the selection process was though but I had faith in God, I believe that He will answer anything I ask His Father in His name, I prayerfully filled the application form and submitted, I didn’t stop praying about it, I prayed for God’s favor and mercy and kept checking my email back to back, each time I check and didn’t see a mail from them, the devil will try to bring negative thoughts but I never fail to counter his words with the promises of God concerning my life. I woke up around 12am today, I saw a notification from my mail, when I opened it, lo and behold it was from them, they said “congratulations you have been accepted” my God!!!! I couldn’t contain my joy, it was midnight but I was worshipping, I was thanking God because He alone did this. My flight and accommodation are covered too!!! God is faithful sisters, please don’t loose faith in Him, He will definitely answer! Praise the Lord!!!! 💃

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SECOND: I am grateful to God for this year’s Juicy July, the Lord has truly been manifesting himself as my father. Each day leads me into a deeper dimension of God. One of my deepest prayer requests has been to see things about my self and people around me in form of dreams and visions. I have also been praying to God about clarity in certain aspects of my life. To the glory of the Lord, since this Juicy July started, I have seen nothing less than 5 dreams, not just about me but about the people around me. I am also grateful for the grace to intercede on behalf of other people. The Lord has given me the grace to wait on Him, and be still. I also daily enjoy the gift of the Holy Spirit who guides, comforts and fills me with His joy even when I don’t have my life all figured out but trusting God has been worth it!

 

 

LET’S TAKE PAUSE 

Before we press into our bulletin for today, let’s pause for a moment and lift up our voices in celebration. Let’s celebrate our God-given femininity. Yes, the beauty, the tenderness, the strength, the elegance, and the grace that comes with being a woman created in the image of God. We rejoice in the way He has shaped us, formed us, and positioned us in this generation for His glory. We are not confused about our identity. We are not ashamed of our design. We love being women, God’s masterpiece!

And let’s also raise our voices in thanksgiving for the masculinity of our brothers, our husbands, and our husbands-to-be. The strength, the leadership, the covering, the priesthood that they have been blessed with. They are a divine gift! We do not despise it. We do not fight it. We honor and celebrate the Lord’s beautiful wisdom in creating male and female, each designed purposefully for His pleasure and glory.

So, before we continue, I want us to worship the Lord with this simple but profound Yoruba chant. I heard it first in a Christian skit many years ago. It wasn’t even sung professionally. But it struck a deep chord in my soul. It reminded me of the glory of godly marriage, the beauty of divine pairing, and the wonder of God’s creative plan.

Let this be our anthem today as we rejoice in the One who made us, in the oneness of marriage, and in the joy of His perfect will. God bless our choir leader for singing this out beautifully for us. God bless you dearly, sis. 

Now lift your voice and sing:

Ogo f’Eni to da wa (Glory to the One who made us)
Ni tako tabo (As male and female)
Laye e e (In this life)
Ogo o (Oh glory!)
F’Oludasile (To the founder)
Igbeyawo Laye (Of marriage in this life)

Oriire lo wole de toyin o (A good thing has come to you!)
Eku oriire tokotiyawo o (Congrats to you, husband and wife)
Ase Eledumare lo se lori yin o (The Will of God has been done in your lives)
Egungun r’egungun ara re (A bone has found its bone)
Loba gbe! (And has cleaved to it!)

 

EXHORTATION: LET ME GIVE YOU MARRIAGE, DAUGHTER!

When you trace your steps back to the books of Moses, you will come across a divine moment: God coming to His servant Moses with a request: “Build Me a house.” Now, if someone were to walk up to you today and say, “I need a hamburger,” your immediate human response would be to head into the kitchen, toss some bread together, layer it with meat, sauce, and whatever else your mind can conjure up, and serve it. It’s an act of goodwill, a response rooted in your own understanding of what a hamburger should be. It’s how the world operates; if someone needs something from you, they do not get to dictate how it should be done. You simply deliver what you believe is best.

But God does not function like that. If you want to give God something, you don’t start from your mind, you start from His heart. You don’t serve Him from your imagination, you serve Him by revelation. You cannot assume to know what He wants just because you’re sincere. If He says, “Build Me a house,” you must first know the One who is asking. You must know His taste, His appetite, His holiness, His magnitude, His eternal nature. What does He like? What does He detest? What is His pattern? What kind of house can He inhabit? What are His dimensions? You must sit at His feet long enough for Him to open up to you. If He doesn’t, you will build something for yourself and stamp His name on it and that is not the same as building for Him.

This is exactly what happened with Moses. God didn’t just say, “Build Me a tabernacle” and leave it there. No. He gave specific instructions: this cubit long, that cubit high, this exact material, this precise design. Every detail mattered because the house was not for man; it was for God. And in the same breath, this is how God approaches marriage. Marriage is not a random coming together. It is not just a partnership. It is a dwelling place. He wants you to build Him a home, but not by your wisdom, your feelings, or your upbringing. He wants to be the One who lays the foundation, draws the blueprint, oversees the construction, and lives in the finished product.

Isn’t that the most beautiful paradox? He tells you to build Him a home, yet He wants to be the One who builds it through you. He calls you to give Him a marriage, yet He doesn’t leave you to figure it out on your own. He instructs, He guides, He leads, He provides. All He wants is your yielded heart, your listening ears, and your unwavering trust. 

 

BUILDING GOD A MARRIAGE

This is exactly what happened with Moses. God didn’t just say, “Build Me a tabernacle,” and leave it vague. No. He gave specific instructions: this many cubits long, that many cubits high, this exact material, this precise design. Every detail mattered, because the house wasn’t for man; it was for God.

In the same way, this is how God approaches marriage. Marriage is not a random coming together. It is not just a partnership. It is a dwelling place. He wants you to build Him a home, not by your feelings, your upbringing, or worldly wisdom. No. He wants to be the One who lays the foundation, draws the blueprint, oversees the construction, and lives in the finished product!

Isn’t that the most beautiful paradox? He calls you to build Him a home, yet He insists on building it through you. He asks for your marriage, yet He does not abandon you to figure it out alone. He instructs. He guides. He leads. He provides. All He wants is your yielded heart, your listening ears, and your unwavering trust.

Can you now see why marriage is spiritual? Can you now understand why ungodly people cannot get marriage right? Can you now see why unserious Christians always struggle in it?

It often amazes me: churches where discipleship is taken seriously, where following Jesus is the daily culture, you will always hear deep, powerful teachings, seminars, retreats on marriage (and many happy homes there also). Why? Because marriage flows from discipleship. Those pastors understand that you cannot teach marriage properly without teaching the ways of God.

But in churches where there is no discipleship or discipleship wrongly taught as workers’ training, marriage is rarely addressed. Even when members are about to marry, there’s no depth of preparation. Because the foundation of knowing God has not been laid. There’s no intimacy. No surrender. No vision. And so, marriages are built on shifting sand. Check the marriages of the members of these churches and you’d see deaths, struggles, pretences etc.

But if you’ve been discipled, if you’ve come to know God, truly know Him, you will fall in love with Him. That’s the aim of discipleship: to know God and to love Him deeply.

And when you love Him, you will want to do everything for Him. including your marriage. You will understand that your home is a sanctuary, your marriage is an altar, your love is an offering.
Yes, it may look extreme to those who are casual about their lives. Yes, it may sound like bondage to those who have not known the beauty of submission. But to you who have tasted and seen that the Lord is good, you know: this is beautiful. Because this is love. This is devotion. This is worship. This is the marriage that God designed.

 

HAVE YOU RECEIVED THE PATTERN?

So sis, by whose pattern have you been building? Truly ask yourself. Is it the world’s? Is it from social media influencers, romantic movies, cultural expectations, or your own wishful thinking? Or is it from the divine blueprint of the Most High God, the Author of marriage Himself? Many of us have never truly sat to ask: What exactly are God’s instructions about marriage? What are His specifications, His dimensions, His precepts? We say we want a godly marriage, but we don’t want to live by the Book. We want the glory but not the consecration. We want the results but not the sacrifice. Yet, if we must enjoy marriage as God intended, we must return to the Pattern.

The Word says, “He that hath my commandments and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me.” But notice this: You must first have the commandments before you can keep them. Do you know them? Have you studied them? Do you know what God says to a wife? What He says to a husband? What He says about forgiveness, submission, leadership, prayer, intimacy, parenting, spiritual authority, covenant, and commitment? If you don’t know His commandments, what exactly are you building on?

Single sister, maybe that’s why God is still holding you back. You don’t even know why you want to get married. You carry shallow, self-serving reasons in your heart: you want a provider, a listener, someone to fight with, to record YouTube vlogs together, someone who takes cute pictures, or to make a point to your family and enemies that you didn’t marry late. Oh sis, how weak those reasons are! Marriage is not about proving anything to anyone. It is about partnering with God to raise a generation, to reflect His glory, and to become more like Christ. Perhaps God sees that you are not yet ready to carry such a weight, so He waits for you to grow in wisdom.

And you, married sister, don’t think you’ve arrived. Don’t let the wedding band or change of surname deceive you into thinking you’ve completed your assignment. You’re still in school. Marriage is a forever lesson. Every season comes with new demands. Don’t be too proud to learn. Don’t think because you’re married, God owes you a beautiful marriage. No! If you don’t involve Him daily, if you don’t give Him the steering wheel, your marriage will join the statistics. You must let Him inhabit your home. You must let Him be the fire on your altar. Marriage without God is a burden. Marriage with God is bliss.

I’m telling you the truth, sister. I lie not. I have never known such joy, such adventure, such holy sweetness and bliss, such sharpening, such fire, such life, until I walked with God in my marriage. The years I’ve spent in marriage have been the most beautiful years of my life!! Don’t believe the lie that marriage is dull and draining. No! When it is God-ordained and God-filled, it is glorious.

So learn fast, dear one. If you want the delays to end, learn fast. If you want restoration, surrender fast. If you want transformation, align fast. Because God is not playing games with your life. He wants to make you a sign and a wonder. He wants your marriage to be His megaphone. But He cannot do that until you build by His pattern.

So again I ask you, by whose pattern have you been building?

 

A MAN FIT FOR YOU

In Genesis, the Lord said concerning Adam that He would make a help meet for him, so also, dear sister, the Lord desires to make a man fit for you, a man whose life you complete, a man that aligns perfectly for your life.

If God says He will make something that is fit, then it is like a tailor who wants to cut a perfect dress for you. Your Father knows your true size, not just your physical size, but your spiritual and emotional dimensions too. Now, you might feel very slim in the spirit, maybe even underdeveloped in character, wisdom, or maturity. But God, being the all-knowing One, makes allowances for who you are now and who you are becoming.

He knows your yesterday. He sees your today. And He understands your tomorrow. You might be stuck in what you know about yourself now or what you know about that man now. But God who knows the future knows what you’d  be in five, ten, twenty years. And He knows the kind of man that will still fit you at that point in your life. Isn’t that glorious?

And so He says, “Come, My daughter. Let Me give you a fit that is meet for you.” That is the essence of divine matchmaking. Let Me prepare the very best for you. And here’s the beauty of God’s tailoring: His cuts don’t shrink. They’re not rigid. They are not elastic either, but somehow, they grow with you. They expand as you mature. They adjust as you evolve.

Even if you gain some spiritual “weight” or life throws you into new seasons, you’ll still find joy and peace in that fit. Because both of you, you and the man God is giving to you, will continue to align. You’ll look at each other and know: this is my fit. Our hearts beat together. Our purpose flows together. Our lives are aligned.

And that, dear sister, is what we are pressing into: a God-cut fit, a divinely tailored relationship, one that expands with life and yet stays perfectly aligned in Christ.

You don’t know who fits you. I can assure you, you don’t. You may think you do, based on feelings, chemistry, shared interests, background, ministry, or even timing. But no matter how discerning you believe you are, you still see only in part. You don’t know your future. You don’t know what storms are ahead, what growth spurts will stretch your soul, or what pruning seasons will demand more than you ever thought you could give. But your Father, oh, your Father knows! He knows your end from your beginning. He knows the path your feet will take, the fire your heart must pass through, and the kind of man who can hold your hand through it all and not let go.

That’s why He doesn’t ask you to choose by sight or by logic. He calls you to surrender. To trust. To let Him do the tailoring. Because only He can fashion a fit that won’t tear when life pulls at the seams. A fit that won’t choke you when your soul expands. A fit that won’t suffocate your purpose or crush your spirit. He gives the kind of fit that flows with grace, even when the seasons change. That is why we must go to Him, saying: “Father, choose for me. Father, cut for me. Father, fit me.”

And it’s not just for single sisters. This is also for the married ones. Maybe you’re reading this and thinking, What if I didn’t wait for the divine fit? What if I rushed ahead, chose with my eyes, and now I feel like I’m in a tight, choking corner? Sister, even in that place, your Father still knows what to do. He is the great Redeemer. He’s the God who can stretch what looks too small, soften what feels too stiff, and realign what has become crooked. If you give Him your marriage, He will not mock your pain or judge your regret. He will work wonders, even in places you thought were ruined forever.

 

 

A FEW WISDOMS IN HIS CURRICULUM

So can I lend you a few wisdoms, dear sister? I sense strongly in my heart that I must. There are truths you must urgently begin to gather into your spiritual backpack: truths and graces, disciplines and revelations, skills and habits, that are not optional if you’re going to survive, let alone thrive, on this journey of marriage. Are you still single and waiting on the Lord, or you are already married and walking that path daily? There is a divine curriculum that the Holy Spirit desires to write upon the tablets of your heart. It is heaven’s curriculum for daughters who want to build homes that will last through the floods, the winds, and the fire. It is God’s pattern for women who will partner with Him to raise altars and legacies, not just children.

As a single sister, there are divine courses you must not only enroll in but also pass. Imagine entering a university and failing all your 100-level courses. Would you be promoted to the next level? Never. In the same way, when you keep failing spiritual foundational courses, you’ll keep circling the same mountains. It will feel like delay, it will feel like rejection, but in truth, it is heaven’s mercy, not punishment. God loves you too much to hand over His son, one He has been preparing for war, to a woman who cannot yet steward peace, prayer, and purpose. So, the earlier you begin to embrace these lessons, the earlier the journey unfolds. The earlier he leads you. The earlier He gives you out. 

And to the married woman reading this. You are not left out of this curriculum. In fact, you may need it even more urgently. Being married does not exempt you from divine training, it should rather deepen your hunger for it. Because if you don’t intentionally align with God’s blueprint, anything, yes, anything, can begin to tamper with that marriage. Sister, don’t get too relaxed because you already wear the ring. A wedding ring without spiritual armor is an invitation to war without weapons. So rise up! Go back to your Teacher. Sit at His feet again. Let Him teach you wisdoms. Let him release power to build a home where Christ is not just invited, but enthroned to you.

So take these wisdoms that I’d be sharing seriously. Married or single, this kingdom curriculum is non-negotiable. Let it find a resting place in your soul. Let it convict, correct, and construct you. For when God begins to see that you are learning well, that you are growing and glowing in obedience, He will not withhold any good thing from you, including the kind of marriage that glorifies Him deeply and satisfies you richly. Let wisdom be your pursuit! Let the curriculum shape you. And may your life and home forever echo this one truth: God still builds homes, and when He builds, no man, no devil, can tear it down.

 

WISDOM 1: THE ABIDING 

Yes. Abiding is where it all begins. God looks at your abiding. Because if you do not abide in Him, you can do nothing. Nothing lasting. Nothing spiritual. Nothing that bears eternal weight. Not a Godly marriage!

John 15 is so clear. Jesus says, “I am the true vine, and my Father is the husbandman… Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, except it abide in the vine, no more can ye, except ye abide in Me.” A mango tree is not first known by its fruits. The branch might carry the fruit, but it is the root that defines the tree. And Jesus says that’s who He is. He is the root, the vine, the life. If your life is not flowing from Him, then everything else, your gifts, your talents, your looks, your desires, are just withering branches. 

Abiding in Christ is not a mystery. It is measurable. It is visible. It is real. If you are truly abiding, then the fruit of that intimacy will begin to manifest in your daily life, especially in the most ordinary, hidden places. Are you living with your parents, your siblings, your friends, your roommates? That is where your fruit shows. That is the soil God watches. How do you speak to your mother when she offends you? How do you respond to your siblings when they invade your space or hurt your feelings? What flows out when you are angry? What spills over when you are tired? Are you loving? Are you joyful? Do you have peace in the middle of inconveniences? Do you endure when people irritate you, or do you constantly explode? Do you have self-control when you’re provoked, or do you justify your outbursts because “they started it”?

This is how the Lord tests if you are abiding. Not in your church attendance or spiritual vocabulary, but in the fruit your roots are producing. You see, the fruits of the Spirit, love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control, are not future goals for your marriage, they are present signs of your abiding. If the fruit is not growing now, it will not suddenly appear on your wedding day. In fact, marriage will only expose your emptiness!

And God, being a wise Father, will not rush you into disgrace. He is not just preparing a wedding day, He is preparing you. He wants to trust you with the heart of another human being, and He watches how you handle the hearts around you now. No, He does not expect perfection. We are all growing. But He does expect awareness. Are you aware of the fruit He wants to see in your life? Are you conscious of His refining work? Can He see that you have begun the journey of pruning, surrender, and transformation?

If you’re not even aware that you need these things, and you’re just praying for a husband with no fruit of abiding, what are you preparing for? Marriage is not a joke. You can’t afford to go into it unprepared. You’ll not just embarrass yourself. You’ll misrepresent your heavenly Father. So He waits. He waits for the fruit. He waits for the signs that you are not just shouting prayers, but drinking deeply from the Vine. That you’re not just hearing sermons, but submitting to the pruning of the Spirit. He wants to lead you into a beautiful marriage, but only if He knows you are learning what you need for it. That’s why now is your time of abiding. That’s why now is your training ground. Don’t waste it. Let the fruit grow. Let the Spirit flow. Let your life become proof that you are connected to Christ.

 

WISDOM 2: THE FIGHTING SPIRIT

The fighting spirit is the heartbeat of every thriving relationship and especially marriage. This spirit is not about being argumentative or stubborn for the sake of it. It’s about showing up, refusing to give up, and valuing what God has entrusted to you enough to protect and nurture it.

Ask yourself, how do you fight for your friendships? Do you let little misunderstandings push you away? Or do you have that humble strength that reaches out, says, “I’m sorry,” and takes responsibility? The world we live in is quick to discard relationships as if they’re disposable. Friendships end with a swipe, a slight offense, or a moment of anger. But marriage demands more. It demands a fighting spirit that perseveres beyond the surface, beyond the hurt, beyond pride.

The Lord watches and asks, can I trust you with this gift? Can I trust that when the enemy comes to steal, kill, and destroy, you will stand firm? Because the enemy is always watching, always scheming to hijack your home, your marriage, your joy. The world pressures you to quit, to move on, to settle for less, or to find “better.” Even the enemy uses lies to convince you that it’s easier to give up than to fight.

But God calls you to something different. He calls you to fight with love, to fight with humility, to fight with forgiveness. That fighting spirit is the one that says, “I will hold on. I will seek peace. I will apologize even when it’s hard. I will protect what God has given me.” This is a spirit that hugs, that speaks life, that stands firm in prayer when challenges come.

God is testing this spirit in your single years, in your friendships, in your small daily relationships. He is preparing you, sharpening you, making sure that when He entrusts you with a marriage, you are ready to guard it fiercely but lovingly. If you trivialize relationships now, if you easily give up on friends or family, it’s a warning sign that you may not be ready to fight for your marriage.

So the question is, do you have this fighting spirit? Are you ready to fight with the weapons of love, grace, and patience? Or are you walking in carelessness and casualness toward the sacred? God is watching, and He wants a warrior bride who fights to keep the home He gives her.

 

WISDOM 3: WARFARE POWER

It is this fighting spirit that gives birth to warfare power. You see, when you love someone deeply, when you truly value a friend, a parent, a sibling, you don’t fold your arms when the enemy starts knocking. No, you rise. You stand. You fight- with your life, with your tears!

You watch your friend start to drift spiritually, and something inside you refuses to be silent. You say, “No, not on my watch.” You begin to pray, weep, intercede. When your mother starts battling afflictions, emotional, physical, spiritual, you don’t just say, “It’s life.” You war for her. You challenge every spirit of oppression, every curse trying to rest upon her. Because love makes you fight. That’s how warfare power begins to grow.

So, God is watching, can you stand in the gap now? Can you press in now, when no one is clapping for you, when it’s not yet your home, not yet your man? Because marriage is war. Not war against each other, but war against hell trying to break what heaven is building.

When things begin to feel strange in your heart, when you feel the desire to withdraw, when selfishness starts creeping in, you don’t just say, “That’s how I am.” No! You say, “This thing will not destroy my home.” You go into prayer, you go into fasting, you go into repentance. When your husband starts changing, love pushes you into war, not complaints. You don’t say, “I’m tired.” You say, “This is my house. This is my covenant. This is my man. And satan cannot have him.”

But if you’re not fighting now as a single, what makes you think you’ll suddenly become a warrior when you’re married?

How are you warring now? Do you war at all? Or do you just take life easy? Floating through the days with casual prayers, laughing through the nights on endless calls with different brothers, one today, another tomorrow. Where is your altar? Where is your incense? Where are your spiritual scars? Can heaven point to you as one of the enlisted? Are you even registered in the war room of heaven?

You say you want to raise children for God. But can you war for them? Can God trust that when the enemy rises like a flood, you will lift up the standard of intercession? Or will you fold under pressure and run to carnal options like some are doing? A sister once shared with me that she was terribly ill, and her mother, a supposed Christian, took her name to a Babaláwo! A fetish priest! This wasn’t someone from an unbelieving home. This was someone from a Nigerian church many of us would call “deep.”

Is that what you would do too? When afflictions come, when your husband is under fire, when your child is sick, will you run to prophets, to pills, to panic? Or will you be found at the altar with your hands lifted, warring in tongues, crying out the Word, shifting realms, and commanding?

You say you want a beautiful marriage. But God is asking, can I trust you in battle? Can I hand you a husband and be confident that peradventure darkness comes, you’d join him so your home isn’t swallowed up? Can I place children in your womb and be sure you will not lose them to carelessness, to prayerlessness, to ignorance?

God is not looking for lazy daughters. He’s not looking for pretty prayer-posters. He’s looking for warriors. Women who will stand between the living and the dead. Women who will not sleep when the Spirit says, “Wake up and fight!” Women who know how to cancel dreams, break covenants, shatter patterns, and recover destinies.

You want to be called “wife,” but do you know how to wear the full armor? You want to be called “mother,” but do you know how to groan in the Spirit until deliverance breaks out? This is not a game. Satan is not playing with your future.

So if you’re not warring now, you are not being prepared. You are being deceived. Marriage is not just for love and laughter, it is for assignment, dominion, territory. You must fight. You must train your hands to war and your fingers to battle. Not just for yourself, but for your husband, your children, your home, your generation.

So, sister, where is your sword?

 

WISDOM 4: SELFLESNESS

God is looking at you now, dear sister, not for the eloquence you speak with, or even how long you stay in church meetings, but for the measure of selflessness you carry. The very thing that killed Jesus on the cross was not the nails. It was selflessness. The decision to lay down His will, His rights, His comfort, His glory, so that you and I could be saved. That same spirit must be found in you. 

You want a glorious marriage? You want a home where the heavens kiss the earth? Then you must die now. Die to self. Die to the “me-first” life. Die to the “what’s in it for me” mindset. Die to the flesh that constantly wants to be pampered. If you don’t die now, your marriage will die later. Because it is selfishness that kills marriages. And it is selflessness that saves them.

This is why God is watching. He’s watching the way you treat your roommates when they take your things without asking. He’s watching how you treat your younger sibling who delays your morning routine. He’s watching when you complain about being tired and won’t lift a finger to serve in church. 

You’re waiting for marriage, but heaven is waiting for you to pass the selflessness test. You think you’re waiting on God, but often, God is waiting on you. Because if everything is always about your happiness, your comfort zone, your favorite meals, your favorite shows, your perfect body goals, your aesthetics, your own peace of mind, how then will you handle the demands of covenant life? 

How will you carry the burden of another soul? How will you wake up in the night to war for your home, to nurse a baby when your body is broken, to forgive your husband when he hurts you, to serve even when you don’t feel like it?

Marriage is not a luxury of pleasure; it is a call to sacrifice. And God does not call the selfish. He trains the selfless. He entrusts the kind who will say like Jesus, “Not my will, but Yours be done.” The marriage you desire will require death. The death of pride, of personal ambition, of entitlement. Are you dying now? Are you passing the course? Or are you coasting through life thinking love is just about being adored and pampered?

No, sister. It is not about you. It never was. The kingdom of God is not built on comfort. It is built on the blood of the Lamb and the death of selfishness. If God sees selflessness in you now, He can trust you. He can trust that when storms come, you won’t run. When offense arises, you won’t walk away. When your husband hurts you, you won’t give up. He knows that your foundation is not “what I can get” but “how I can give.” This is what secures your future. This is what determines your readiness. This is what keeps your home when warfare comes.

So stop asking when the wedding will come. Start asking how the dying must begin. Because this is a course. The course of selflessness. And you must pass it, if you must get God’s choice. 

 

WISDOM 5: SECURITY IN THE FATHER’S LOVE 

This is not about quoting scriptures or singing songs about His love. This is not about writing “Daughter of the King” in your bio while your heart is dry and desperate inside. This is about an unshakable foundation. It’s about waking up in the middle of the night, with tears in your eyes, and still whispering, “My Father loves me.” 

It’s about walking through a season of dryness and still dancing because “My Father chose me.” It’s about not getting the job you prayed for, and still standing tall, smiling gently, because you know you are deeply loved, watched over, and secure in the Father’s love.

Many sisters think they are ready for marriage, but they are still orphans in their spirits. They know the Father in their minds, but their hearts are still looking for a father’s hug, a father’s attention, a father’s voice. And so, they enter marriage with wounds, trying to squeeze fatherhood out of a husband, trying to suck identity from their children, trying to find stability in the hands of mere mortals.

And God is watching you now. He is looking at you in this single season. Does she rest in Me? Can she look at Me and smile even when the whole world turns its back on her? Can she wake up in the morning, unloved by men but saturated in My love? Can she carry this security into marriage, so that when the storms hit, she doesn’t run from prayer group to prayer group, from friend to counselor, from complaint to complaint?

Jesus was secure in His Father’s love. In John 16, He told His disciples that everyone was about to scatter, but He said it without bitterness. He said, “Yet I am not alone, for the Father is with Me.” That was His security. He had an unbreakable union with the Father. He didn’t beg people to stay. He didn’t fall apart when they left. His Father was enough. And that’s the same posture the Father wants to see in you.

Sister, if you’re not secure in His love now, you will carry that thirst into your marriage. You will seek constant attention from your husband, and when he doesn’t meet your needs perfectly (because he can’t), you will become bitter. You will think he’s the problem, but really, it was the orphan spirit you carried in. You will see your children and resent them. You will be harsh. You will feel like a failure every day. You will need constant applause and gratitude from them. And when they don’t give it, you will lash out, all because the security of the Father’s love was not established before the wedding gown.

Now is the time. Now, while you are single and hidden. Be secure. Stop looking for love in the eyes of brothers who are not your husband. Stop using social media to get validation. Stop texting people just to feel needed. Settle into His arms. He is the only Father whose love never fluctuates. He’s the only One who saw your worst and still calls you beloved.

You must be so grounded in His love that when Satan whispers, “You are not love,” your soul shouts back, “I am  loved. I am chosen. My Father delights in me!” You must be so full of His love that when your husband is silent, and your children misunderstand you, you don’t break. You bend. You kneel. You worship. Because the security that kept you standing all along wasn’t them. It was Him.

Sister, pass this test now. Root yourself. Secure yourself. Let the Father pour His love so deep into your soul that no human rejection can ever uproot you again. Only then can you become the kind of wife and mother that hell fears and heaven rejoices over.

 

WISDOM 6: DETACHMENT

Now, there’s another wisdom I must pass across, and it is the wisdom of detachment.

We’ve talked about the importance of having a fighting spirit, the will to fight for your home, your husband, your destiny. But along with that spirit, detachment is crucial. It is a detachment from anything that competes with God’s command in your life.

Yes, detachment.

It could be an ungodly relationship that drags you backward. A phone call that leads you into compromise every time. A place you go to that dims your spiritual sensitivity. A diet or drink that the Lord has instructed you to give up for the sake of your health etc. A detachment from a favourite movie type or series, popular celebrities, social media, false prophet, TV shows etc. 

If you remain blindly loyal to these things even when God has clearly spoken, then you have not yet grasped true wisdom. God’s wisdom teaches prompt obedience and swift detachment.

You see, in marriage, one of the strongest spiritual requirements is detachment. Detachment from anything that threatens your attachment to your husband. Anything that wars against your loyalty, unity, and devotion to your spouse must be let go of.

The Bible says in Genesis 2:24:
“Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and shall cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”

That is God’s command for detachment. It’s not merely about changing homes; it is about a heart shift. When a man refuses to detach from his parents emotionally and spiritually, he will struggle to cleave properly to his wife. And where there is no cleaving, oneness is impossible.

But the same principle applies to the woman. Although the woman is typically “given out” in marriage, many never truly leave in their hearts. They are physically in their husband’s house but emotionally still in their father’s. Every decision is still, “Let me call my mom.” “Let me check with my dad.” “My mom used to do it this way.” “My dad said…”

How can you cleave if you’re still glued elsewhere?

There must be a deliberate detachment to make room for divine attachment. This is wisdom: to know when a season has ended and to embrace your new season fully.

Even more, as a mother or father someday, remember this wisdom. Do not interfere in the marriages of your children. Give them space to attach to their own. Prepare them ahead to detach from you, so that they can cleave to their spouses and build their own homes for the Lord. 

Detachment is not rejection, sis. It is a preparation for unity. It is not dishonor but a lovely honor for God’s divine order.

Let us be women of wisdom, obedient to God, willing to walk away from whatever He says “No” to, and ready to cleave tightly to His design for our lives.

 

DIG OUT MORE WISDOMS!

I could go on and on, pouring out the wisdom God has taught me, wisdom He wants to teach you too, even now in your single season. But why should I go on and on? Why should I keep speaking, when you also have the Holy Spirit within you?

Dig into Him. Let Him speak to you. Let Him open the wells of wisdom that you need, not just for marriage, but for life itself.

I didn’t get this from books. No one sat me down to explain it all. The Spirit of Christ taught me. And that same Spirit lives inside of you. Jesus said, “When the Spirit of truth comes, He will teach you all things.” He is with you. Let Him teach you.

Sisters, whether single or married, can you see now the kind of wisdom we need for life? For marriage? Maybe you didn’t have this understanding when you were single. Maybe you walked into marriage not so deeply rooted in God. You didn’t know these things.

But, sis, it is not too late.

It’s not too late to rise up with the spirit of a warrior. It’s not too late to walk in abiding. It’s not too late to begin to cultivate selflessness. It’s not too late to surrender fully to the Lord and say, “Father, I want to bear fruit. I want to abide in You. I want to be filled with Your Spirit.”

Remember John chapter 2. The wine ran out. Everything was running out. Maybe for you, the peace is running out. The strength is running out. The patience is running out. The joy is running out. But what made the difference in that wedding?

Jesus was invited!!!

Invite Him into your home again. Invite Him into your heart afresh. Sit with Him. Cry out to Him and say:

“Lord, I want to fight for this marriage. I want to fight the right way. Teach my hands to war and my fingers to fight. I want to be a selfless woman. I want to abide and bear the fruits of the Spirit. Father, I surrender my life. Build my marriage. Build my home. Come and do what only You can do.”

You are not too late. Your home is not too far gone. Your life is not beyond hope.

You can start now. Your marriage can still glorify God. You can rise again. You can build again.

So rise, sister. Stand up.

 

WHEN GOD IS IN THE FAMILY by Empowering Families

When God is in the family love is always there

When God is in the family we’re closer together

When God is in the family blessings are found everywhere,

When God is in the family, everything is there

 

So let Him now come in my friend to the door 

He’s always knocking and bring with Him 

His gift for love and  His life eternal

 

When God is in the family love is always there

When God is in the family we’re closer together

When God is in the family blessings are found everywhere,

when God is in the family, everything is there

 

ROUNDING OFF

When God indeed comes to build your home as a married woman, when you finally allow the Lord, when you follow the pattern He has given unto you to build a home even from your single days, when you let Him give you the blueprint and then He gives you His son, it becomes something truly beautiful. He knows His son is safe with you. Then, you marry, and it all aligns with His perfect plan.

You go to your place of work joyful. You do the work of the Lord with peace and contentment. The world might fight; things might go wrong. But your home becomes a little safe haven, a refuge people don’t want to leave. Visitors come and they don’t want to return to the harshness of the outside world. It feels like a place they could stay forever.

Even your children cannot imagine life apart from you. They want to remain close because you’ve not made yourself the center of their universe, you’ve shown them the Father. You constantly point them to their Heavenly Father. And your home revolves around Him. You take His permission. You ask for His leading. He is the song in your mouth at all times. Your life begins to make divine sense.

He directs everything. He settles your quarrels. He resolves your issues. Before you even say it, your husband understands. He’s quick to grasp your needs, quick to apologize, quick to love, and quick to help. You’re able to ask for help without fear, and he helps out of love, not compulsion. He sees that he can trust you. He knows his life is safe in your hands. Together, you live a heaven-on-earth kind of life.

It’s so beautiful, sisters. I honestly can’t imagine anyone close living outside this divine picture. There’s no drama in it. You won’t have to take your problems to social media. You won’t need to misrepresent your home or spark controversy for attention. No! There’s a peace that radiates from within you, and people around you can feel that this love, this joy, this presence, it is from somewhere divine.

Do you know what God did after Noah built the ark? He closed it Himself. That ark tumbled and rumbled in the waters. The world was being destroyed all around it, but everything inside the ark was safe. That’s what your home becomes when you follow God’s instructions. The world may go crazy. Hell may surround the earth. But your home, your God-built ark, will be secure.

Let God build your home. Follow His prescriptions now as a single woman. Follow them as a married woman. You will be joyful. You will be fulfilled. God is most glorified when we are satisfied in Him. I hope you know that. So let your satisfaction come through obedience. Let Him fill you. Let Him satisfy you. And people will look at you and say, “God is good. God still leads. God is faithful.”

Yo! What an amazing God!

 

LOVE WILL BE OUR HOME by The Asidors

AUDIO: 

If home is really where the heart is

Then home must be a place that we all share

For even with our differences

Our hearts are much the same

For where love is we come together there

 

Wherever there is laughter ringing

Someone smiling, someone dreaming

We can live together there

Love will be our home

Wherever there are children singing

Where a tender heart is beating

We can live together there

‘Cause love will be our home

(Love will be our home)

 

With love our hearts can be a family

And hope can bring this family face to face

And though we may be far apart

Our hearts can be as one

When love brings us together in one place

 

Wherever there is laughter ringing

Someone smiling, someone dreaming

We can live together there

Love will be our home

Where there are words of kindness spoken

Where a vow is never broken

We can live together there

‘Cause love will be our home

 

Love will, love will be our home

Love will, love will be our home

Love will, love will be our home

Love will, love will be our home

 

Wherever there is laughter ringing

Someone smiling, someone dreaming

We can live together there

Love will be our home

Wherever there are children singing

Where a tender heart is beating

We can live together there

‘Cause love will be our home

 

Love will, love will be our home

Love will, love will be our home

Love will, love will be our home

Love will, love will be our home

 

Wherever there is laughter ringing

Someone smiling, someone dreaming

We can live together there

‘Cause love will be our home

Love will be our home

STIRRING THE WATERS

Dear sister, it is that special moment. 10 good minutes of stirring the waters, of praying in the Holy Ghost. Please gladly take this short pause. Let the instrumental below play and just stir. Don’t rush this. Pray in the Spirit. Abba to Daughter. Spirit to Spirit.

And if you haven’t received the gift of the Holy Spirit yet? This is YOUR TIME! Cry out to Abba:  “Father, fill me! Baptize me! Immerse me in Your Spirit! I need You for life, Holy Spirit, come. Baptize me with the Holy Ghost and Father, please grant me another pentecost in Jesus Name”

Let’s start stirring. 

 

 

TAKE CHARGE

We are daughters, let’s take charge over the territories where we are represented right now. 

Father, by Your mighty Name, I sanctify my body, my home, and my atmosphere right now. I cover myself with the blood of Jesus (Revelation 12:11) and declare every strange spirit, every demonic stronghold, to flee by fire (Psalm 34:7). I cleanse this place and myself from every trace of darkness (2 Corinthians 6:17). Let Your Holy Spirit fill this space and my life with Your perfect peace (Isaiah 26:3). I take authority as Your beloved daughter and refuse to be moved. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

 

START PRAYING

Sis, if you’ve ever prayed before, now is the time to turn it up! 

 

Thanksgiving and Adoration

• Abba Father, I bless You for who You are and for who You will always be. You are the same yesterday, today, and forever.
• Thank You for Your loving kindness and Your faithfulness. You never fail, and Your Word stands sure. Thank You for watching over Your promises to perform them.
• Continue to thank God for the wealth of all He’s blessed you with today. 

 

NOW, PRAY FERVENTLY

 

TRUSTING GOD’S BEST PLAN (Jeremiah 29:11, Proverbs 3:5-6)

• O Lord, I surrender my will to You. Even when I don’t understand, help me to trust Your plan!
• Father, every desire in me that is fighting Your perfect will, let it be crucified by fire!
• O God, blind my eyes to what looks good but is not of You, and open my spirit to Your best!
• Every plan I have drawn outside of Your direction, scatter it by mercy, Lord!
• I receive grace to follow God’s timetable, not my emotions or societal pressure!
• Lord, may I not pick what You didn’t choose for me. May I not marry what looks like gold but is coated wood!
• My Father, teach me to wait when You are still writing my story. Let me not rush into disaster!
• O Lord, deliver me from every voice, within and without, that talks me out of Your ordained path!
• Lord Jesus, help me not to chase shadows when You’ve prepared substance for me!
• I silence every whisper from the pit of hell saying, “God is late,” “Take matters into your hands,” “Settle for less.” I reject those voices in Jesus’ name!
• Father, help me to believe that what You have for me is not only good, but the very best!
• O God, turn every delay into divine development; use it to shape me, not break me!
• I decree: I will not miss God’s plan for my life! I will not settle for the counterfeit!
• Lord, when it’s finally Your time, do it so well that I will cry tears of joy! Let it be undeniable that it was You all along!
• Father, make me a living testimony that Your plan is always worth the wait and warfare!

ABIDING IN CHRIST (John 15)

• O Lord, deliver me from every form of spiritual disconnection. Let me abide in You all the days of my life!
• Lord Jesus, help me to stay rooted in You, and not in man, system, or flesh!
• Every power assigned to cut me off from the Vine of Life, catch fire now in the name of Jesus!
• Any area of my life not abiding in Christ, Holy Ghost fire, purge it now!
• Lord, as I abide in You, let the flow of divine life and divine nourishment never cease in me!

 

INHERITANCE & BEING A GOOD WIFE (Prov 31:12, Prov 19:14)

• O God, make me a worthy inheritance to my husband, not a curse, not a burden, not a regret!
• Father, raise me as a wise builder of my home, in word, in deed, and in vision!
• Lord, deliver me from being a destroyer of destiny, make me a helper indeed!
• Holy Spirit, equip me with wisdom to influence generations positively through my home!
• I reject every evil label of ‘bad wife’ or ‘strange woman’, I will do my husband good all the days of his life!
• Father, pour the oil of prudence on me; let me become a blessing that heaven rejoices over!
• Lord, let the power of legacy rest on my womb, my hands, and my words, in Jesus’ name!

 

DIVINE CURRICULUM & SPIRITUAL READINESS

• O Lord, help me to pass every divine course assigned to my season!
• Every satanic distraction pulling me from God’s training ground, scatter now by fire!
• Father, I refuse to keep circling spiritual mountains, bring me into my next level!
• Lord, open my eyes to the areas I’m failing Your divine tests! Help me correct my ways!
• I receive divine hunger for spiritual disciplines: prayer, Word study, fasting, and obedience in the Mighty Name of Jesus. 
• O Lord, empower me to develop the muscles needed for marital destiny in the Mighty Name of Jesus!
• Lord, let my spiritual backpack never be empty. Fill me with truths, graces, and divine skills!

 

A FIT MEET FOR YOU (Genesis 2:18)

• Father, tailor my destiny for the man You have designed for me! I will not mismatch in Jesus’ name!
• O Lord, prepare me for my fit, and prepare my fit for me! Align us in Your time and will!
• Any counterfeit fit or strange man sent to derail my future, be exposed and scattered!
• Lord, as You are cutting me to size, give me patience, humility, and faith to wait!
• Father, I surrender my preferences, fears, and fantasies. Give me Your perfect will!
• Let my marriage (present or future) be full of divine alignment and heart-beating-togetherness!
• Father, may my marriage bring me joy and not sorrow, expansion and not stagnation, fulfillment and not frustration!

 

Can I pray with you, sisters?

Oh my Father, You said You sought for a man to stand in the gap so that the land would not be destroyed. My God, I stand today as a daughter, privileged to enter into Your Presence, and I plead, concerning this sister reading this message:

Lord, step into her season! Step into her decisions! Step into her confusion! Step into her heart, O God, and turn it wholly toward You!

Where her feet have wandered into wrong paths, let Your mercy redirect her. Where she is weary from waiting, strengthen her arms with hope. Where she is scared to trust You again, hold her hand and whisper, “I have the best plan for you.” Lord, let her not wait in vain. Let her not fall for the lies that tell her You’ve forgotten. Let her not settle for a life You didn’t author. Please, let her trust You with tears if necessary, but with firm faith that her story will be beautiful. Oh, Lord, before the end of this year, let Your best plan in marriage for her life unfold beautifully and gloriously, I demand, in the Name of Jesus. 

Abba, to my married sister I speak life over her union. Breathe deeply into that marriage. Breathe fresh fire, fresh hope, fresh love. Let the Spirit stir what feels dry and weary. Let what once seemed barren burst forth like a vineyard heavy with fruit, dripping with joy and laughter. Let the walls of their home echo with Your presence, Your authority, Your peace. And if her marriage is already shining, Lord, don’t let it stay still. Take it higher, beyond what she has ever known. Give her the grace to keep You right before her eyes every day. May the wine of Your presence never run dry in their home. May it be rich, intoxicating, and overflowing, stirring their hearts to celebrate even in the midst of trials. Let that wine revive their spirits, soften hardened places, and ignite a passion that cannot fade in Jesus’ Name. 

Make Yourself a home in my sister’s home, Lord. Not just a guest, not just a visitor who comes and goes, but the very heartbeat of her dwelling. Let every wall echo with Your presence. Let every room carry Your fragrance. Let her future home, or the one she already walks through daily, be a sanctuary where You are not merely acknowledged but enthroned. Take the master key, Jesus. Be the foundation, the architect, the builder, the centerpiece. May the dining table know Your laughter. May the bedroom host Your peace. May the living room carry the warmth of Your glory. Let her home be a place where angels linger, where children flourish, where love is real, where truth is spoken, and where heaven feels near. Let storms lose their grip at her doorstep, because You are there. Make Yourself entirely at home, Lord. Never leave. Never be sidelined. Be the pulse, the song, the breath within those walls.

Father, place a seal on her destiny. Hide her from wrong eyes. Expose every deception. Deliver her from every entanglement. Establish her feet on Your chosen path.

Let her life glorify You. Let her home glorify You. Let her marriage be a trumpet of Your goodness. Let her purpose rise and speak! Let her generations call her blessed. Let hell regret the day she said “Yes” to You, Jesus!

Thank You for being her Builder. Thank You for being her Maker. Thank You for being her Fit-Maker, her Husband-Giver, her Glory-Restorer!

We have prayed in the name that never fails.  JESUS CHRIST, THE LIVING SON OF GOD.
Amen. Amen. Amen!

 

Bless the Lord for answered prayers. It’s in Jesus’ name we pray, Amen!

 

STANDING IN THE GAP

Now, please intercede. Stand in the gap for others. Take these as if they were yours:

ONE:1. I want God to intervene in the life of my brother. This month of July,he must experience genuine salvation. Everyone in the family is tired of different strange behaviors he exhibit everyday. Please sisters join me in prayers.
2. I want God to intervene in my family, I feel so ashamed that I can’t remember the last time we had devotion as a family. That God would show us mercy.
3. I want God to reveal Himself to me more than I’ve experienced and desired.

 

TWO:1. I want God to settle my elder siblings maritally this year in Jesus name, there should be celebrations upon celebrations in my family in Jesus name.
2. God should make my elder siblings happy, take away everything causing them pains and making them cry, God should please make them happy in Jesus name
3. God should heal my heart, and perfect all that concerns me in Jesus name, that the one he has specially made for me should be revealed to me in Jesus name 🙏
4. Heal my mother of every sickness in her body, make her live long, may her life but be cut short in Jesus name, and help me brother settle all his debts miraculously in Jesus name 🙏

 

THREE: My parents marriage will be restored it has been a burden to travel back and revisit their separation case with leaders in the church I want Abba to go ahead of me. I want God to touch my Dad’s heart for real and every veil that has been used to cover his face from realizing the hurt he has caused his wife and we the children. Also, that God will touch my mum’s heart and heal her, open her eye to see what she’s meant to do. To war and not allow the devil crumble her home. I know I will share this testimony here

 

FOUR: Pls, I want the family to prayer for me, for a financial breakthrough. I am in debt, and I don’t have a job, my business is not moving I barely make sales. I want the family to pray for a breakthrough in my business from this month forward. I am planning for my wedding, I want the house to pray for divine provision for the wedding this year.

 

Round off with thanksgiving, 

 

FATHER’S CORNER

Let the instrumental below play freely while you talk to God. Imagine Him seated right before you. Now, start to talk to Him like you can see Him. Heaven is open. Your Father is right before you. Ask away! Ask real things, meat, not chaff. It’s you and Him now. Spend this 10 minutes well, unrushed. spend more time if you so desire but make sure you spend time with your father. I can promise you before July ends, you’d start to have encounters you never knew existed! Ayaaa… Just open your mouth and let it pour! Amen!

Round off with thanksgiving when you are done. 

 

ANNOUNCEMENT:

Don’t forget! Our Juicy July Bible Study holds tonight at 9PM (WAT) on Google Meet (Ladies only). Please ensure you are studying the Scriptures as you fast and pray. God bless us all. 

Text for today: John 18

See you there, beautiful daughter of my Father!

 

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