NOT MY MARRIAGE, SATAN!

JUICY JULY 2025: ABBA FATHER

DAY 9: NOT MY MARRIAGE, SATAN!

TEXT: 2 CORINTHIANS 10:4-5; PSALM 144:1; 

BIBLE STUDY: JOHN 9

 

Dear sister, Welcome to Day 9 of Juicy July 2025! Glory be to God who has brought us this far on this path of intercession and intimacy with Him.

I trust we’re daily soaking in the beauty of our daughterhood in Christ, enjoying the sweet privilege of belonging, and allowing the Holy Spirit full access to our depths, where He cries out “Abba, Father” (Romans 8:15).

Today again, I pray that the Lord God Almighty, will open our eyes to spiritual realities, teach our hands to war, and our fingers to fight. May every lie of the enemy be exposed, and may our mouths be filled with declarations that pull down strongholds and build up covenant truths.

Let’s press in again. 

 

MELODY FROM OUR HEARTS 

Let’s start with singing melody from our hearts to God. Please pause for a moment, rise up if you can, lift those hands, and praise the Lord. Let the song below rise from your core. Burst out in worship, sis. Let Him have it all.

 

ADONAI by Nathaniel Bassey

AUDIO:

[Verse 1]
Worthy of every song we could ever sing
Worthy of all the praise we could ever bring
Worthy of every breath we could ever breathe
We live for You, oh, we live for You

[Verse 2]
Jesus, the Name above every other name
Jesus, the only One who could ever save
Worthy of every breath we could ever breathe
We live for You, we live for You

[Chorus]
Holy, there is no one like You, there is none beside You
Open up my eyes in wonder and
Show me who You are and fill me with Your heart
And lead me in Your love to those around me

[Verse 2]
Jesus, the name above every other name
Jesus, the only One who could ever save
You’re worthy of every breath we could ever breathe
We live for You, oh, we live for You

[Chorus]
Holy, there is no one like You, there is none beside You
Open up my eyes in wonder and
Show me who You are and fill me with Your heart
And lead me in Your love to those around me

OPENING PRAYER

Abba Father, we invite You into today’s session. Grant us Access, Abba! Take over. Take the whole atmosphere. Saturate this moment with Your presence, Lord. Break every chain, raise every weary heart, and fill us with Your fire again. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.

 

Praise The Lord!!! I want to thank God for His Revival in my spirit. Today, I faced persecution that I have not faced in a long time. I don’t even remember facing persecution in this current place of work. It has been laughing, jesting and mocking with everyone. However, the Lord restored me and awakened my spirit man and today, He gave me patience and love while someone spoke somehow to me. As I was sitting not long ago, thinking whether I should have replied or not, the Holy Spirit brought 1Peter 2:23 to my mind, and I was so happy. I had to look up the meaning of revile 😂, and it explained the exact way I was spoken to. I want to thank God for the work of His Spirit and His continuing work this Juicy July. Praise the Lord!!!

EXHORTATION: NOT MY MARRIAGE, SATAN!

Many of us have dreams. We come from homes that are, to be honest, nothing to write home about. But in our hearts, we hold on to a strong desire to do things differently. We dream of building marriages unlike the ones we saw growing up. We believe that although our parents didn’t have great marriages, ours will be different. We say things like, “If only my dad had bought my mum flowers! My own husband must do that!” We imagine all the things we would have done differently if we were in their shoes.

Then we get married—to men who can buy us flowers, chocolates, even plant entire gardens if we want—but somehow, the marriage still doesn’t make sense. There’s still a gap, a frustration, a confusion. We find ourselves repeating the same cycles we swore we would break. And then we say again, “If only…” If only he were more expressive. If only she were more understanding. If only we went on more dates. If only we had better communication. Yet all these “if only”s are cheap wishes.

 

Oh dear sister, that kind of thinking is shallow. The issue is so much deeper than flowers, chocolates, and date nights. That is why, despite all the knowledge, exposure, and aesthetics in our generation, marriages today are more broken than they were in the days of our parents and grandparents. It would be absolute foolishness to think that we will succeed just because we know better than they did, especially when we’re building on a foundation that deviates from the Scriptures.

If we must truly do marriage differently and gloriously, then we must be wise enough to look beyond the surface. We must acknowledge the patterns, confront the generational curses, and deal with the foundational issues that have followed our bloodlines. Until these things are exposed and uprooted by the Spirit of God, all our dreams, romantic gestures, and good intentions will still lead us back to frustration.

We’re not just dealing with ourselves here. We’re dealing with an ancient enemy, the enemy of our Father. The same serpent that crept into Eden and struck at the very heart of God’s design for man and woman is still on the prowl. He’s still attacking homes. Still confusing hearts. Still sowing division and deceit. But we stand today with holy fire in our bones and declare: Not my marriage, Satan!

 

So, the devil has always deployed countless strategies against homes. From the Garden of Eden to this very moment, he has been relentlessly targeting marriages because he understands their power and purpose. But today, we will focus on two major weapons he often uses to destroy godly unions: 

1. Lies and 
2. Spiritual Attacks. 

These are the tools he polishes and sharpens continually, hoping to destroy what God has destined to flourish. Today, we will not just examine them, we will vehemently war against them in prayer! Amen?

 

THE WEAPON OF LIES

The enemy has hated marriage from the very beginning. When he showed up in the Garden of Eden, it wasn’t to destroy the plants or the animals. He came to attack the union between man and woman, the very first marriage. And how did he do it? Not with chains, not with fire or violence. He used lies.

Yes, lies.

Lies are Satan’s oldest and most effective weapon. And even before you began dreaming about love, picturing your wedding day, or praying for your future spouse, Satan was already busy sowing deceptive ideas, false doctrines, poisonous philosophies, and twisted cultural norms into your generation, your family line, and even your personal belief system. And slowly, those lies began to shape our thoughts, our fears, and even our expectations. They influenced the kind of people we dream of marrying, the kind of standards we lowered, the kind of pain we normalized, and even the kind of prayers we failed to pray.

But today, we are turning the lights on. We are exposing every lie that the devil has planted. We are rejecting every deception we have believed. We are breaking agreement with any mindset, philosophy, or generational thought pattern that is not in alignment with the Word of God in Jesus’ Name. Amen. 

1. “Don’t put all your eggs in one basket.”

At first glance, this sounds like wisdom. It seems like common sense in a world full of heartbreaks and betrayals. But beneath its surface is a subtle and deadly lie: “Never trust fully. Never give your all. Always hold something back, just in case.”!!!!! This mindset trains people to love conditionally, to prepare for failure even before commitment begins. But this is not the language of covenant. It is the language of fear, self-preservation, and distrust. God designed marriage to mirror His own covenant relationship with us where love is total, sacrificial, and unwavering. Christ didn’t go to the cross with one eye open and one foot out the door. He gave everything. And that is the true model of marital love: All in. Nothing held back.

 

2. “Never lose yourself in marriage.”

Here’s another popular saying that sounds wise but is actually foolishness in disguise. It’s become trendy, repeated by well-meaning voices, yet it’s a subtle deception. The question is: What exactly is this “loss” the devil is warning us against? Because Jesus said, “Whoever loses his life for My sake will find it” (Matthew 16:25). But the world counters with: “Preserve yourself. Guard your individuality. Protect your identity, even in marriage.” You see, the world glorifies self-preservation, but the Kingdom of God glorifies sacrificial oneness. Marriage, as designed by God, is not about losing your God-given purpose, but about laying down your selfishness to find a higher, united calling. The goal isn’t to disappear, it’s to become one flesh, one heart, one mission. And in that divine oneness, your true self is actually found, not lost.

 

3. “Your children come first.”

This one sounds noble. It feels maternal, selfless, even heroic. But at its core, it is a subtle trap. While children are a gift from the Lord, they are not the foundation of the home, marriage is. God designed the marriage covenant to be the core, the anchor, the first ministry, not the children. When a couple makes the children the center of everything, the marriage slowly becomes neglected. And as the kids grow up and leave, what remains is often a hollow shell of what once was. A strong marriage is what raises whole children, not the other way around. A child-centered home may feel functional for a season but can easily crumble once the children are gone. Children are arrows in the hand of a warrior (Psalm 127:4) but marriage is the bow. Lose the bow, and the arrows scatter.

 

4. “He/She is not your blood.”

This is one of the devil’s favorite lines, and sadly, many have believed it. It sounds logical on the surface, but it is laced with division and disloyalty. The enemy uses this lie to keep couples emotionally detached, reserving loyalty for parents, siblings, or children above their spouse. But in the spirit, marital blood is thicker than biological blood. When Adam saw Eve, he didn’t say, “She’s from another tribe or bloodline.” He said, “This is now bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh.” (Genesis 2:23). That is covenant language. Even Jesus left His heavenly family to marry the Church, laying down His life to seal that bond. The truth is this: Covenant goes deeper than DNA. Marital covenant is not built on human opinion or culture, it is a divine, spiritual tie sealed by God Himself. When two become one, God calls it flesh of flesh, and no earthly bloodline can compete with that.

 

5. “Have a backup plan.”

This lie might parade itself as wisdom, but it is truly a seed of divorce. It teaches you to build escape routes before the real journey even begins. Thoughts like, “If he cheats, I’ll bounce,” or “If it gets too hard, I’ll walk away,” sound protective, but they quietly weaken the foundation of covenant. Backup plans are not wisdom but exit doors. And once your heart knows there’s an exit, it won’t stay and fight. But true covenant has no back door. It stays. It prays. It wars. It heals. When God chose to redeem mankind, He didn’t keep an alternative plan in His pocket. The Cross was the plan and He gave it all, without reservation. That’s the nature of real commitment. That’s what marriage calls for.

 

6. “Marriage is just paper.”

No, sis, marriage is not just paper. It is blood. It is spirit. It is covenant. The world has worked hard to reduce marriage to a legal contract or a social ceremony, something that can be entered casually and exited easily. But Heaven doesn’t see it that way. In the courts of God, marriage is sacred. On the earth, it is prophetic. It is not just a document, it is a divine joining, a spiritual transaction witnessed and sealed by God Himself. Marriage is a living mirror of Christ and the Church, and to treat it as “just paper” is to insult the holy mystery it represents. It is not a formality, it is a calling, a ministry, a covenant made before the eyes of the Eternal One no matter the type of wedding conducted. 

 

7. “Marriage Limits!’

This lie discourages many from even desiring marriage, making it seem like a cage or a chain that will restrict their dreams and calling. But the truth is exactly the opposite. When marriage is Spirit-led, it doesn’t limit you, it amplifies your calling. It sharpens your vision, multiplies your influence, and expands your impact. Rather than being the death of your purpose, marriage often becomes the very womb of purpose, birthing new strengths, opportunities, and anointing you could never access alone. Don’t let the enemy fool you into thinking that marriage is a barrier to your destiny, it’s often the gateway.

 

8. “Keep control. Never be vulnerable.”

This lie promises false security through control, but it is a trap set by Satan himself. The enemy wants us to build walls around our hearts, to hold back, and to protect ourselves by controlling every situation. Yet, vulnerability is God’s gateway to true intimacy. He created marriage to be like a garden, a place of nakedness and freedom, without shame. Real strength and power in marriage come not from control or guardedness but from openness, honesty, and the willingness to be fully known and fully loved. When we let down our walls, we allow God’s love to flow freely and transform us and our relationships.

 

9. “God cannot give you a partner, choose for yourself.”

This is not just a lie but a direct attack on divine alignment, on godly trust, and on surrendered destiny. It tells you, “God is too slow. Too detached. He doesn’t really care who you marry. Just pick someone good and go with it.”

But daughter, listen closely: God gave Eve to Adam. He brought her to him. Adam didn’t swipe left and right in Eden. He didn’t go on a discovery mission. The Maker made her, then matched her. God was not passive in Adam’s marriage. He was the Author.

Satan wants you to believe that divine matchmaking is fiction. That God is only good for career decisions, ministry directions, or healing prayers, but not for matters of the heart, matters of life. That’s a lie.

In truth, the Father delights in writing love stories. He still guides. He still leads. He still speaks. The issue is not that He no longer chooses; the issue is that we’ve stopped waiting. We’ve grown deaf. We’ve become impatient. We want instant love instead of eternal purpose.

So the devil whispers: “God doesn’t really care about that. That’s why He gave you a brain. Just choose the best available.” And many fall into mismatched yokes, lifeless unions, and spiritual delays because they chose without the One who sees the end from the beginning.

But when God gives, He gives with eyes of eternity. He sees your calling, your weaknesses, your future. He chooses with precision, not emotion. And when He joins, it is a joining the gates of hell cannot undo.

So, dear sis, reject the lie. God is still in the business of leading hearts into His perfect plan. Wait for Him. Trust Him. He knows what He’s doing.

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10. “Marriage gets boring. Just endure it and fall back on your hobbies.”

This right here is a well-camouflaged lie, sugar-coated and socially accepted. It sounds harmless. Logical even. But it is a demonic whisper in disguise. One that sets a woman up to enter marriage half-hearted, already anticipating the day love will die.

Sis, can you see how wicked this is? Satan doesn’t need to destroy that kind of marriage. It was born already defeated!!! This lie preaches that passion fades, connection dies, and boredom is inevitable. So it advises: Don’t expect too much. Just have something else that gives you joy when marriage doesn’t.

But let’s pause and ask: Did God design marriage to be endured or enjoyed? Is He so shallow that the union He created to reflect the joy of the Trinity. fellowship, laughter, communion, would become a dull, lifeless routine?

No!

God made marriage to be sweet, alive, sacred, and ever-growing. Love in marriage is not supposed to fizzle out after the honeymoon phase. It is meant to deepen. To mature. To overflow. And yes, to remain exciting.

Marriage is not boring. Sin is. Selfishness is. Lack of intentionality is. Prayerlessness is. Absence of purpose is. When a couple prays together, grows together, forgives quickly, pursues Christ deeply, marriage becomes a powerful dance of joy and assignment.

So, sis, don’t let the devil plant low expectations in you. Don’t prepare a Plan B just in case love dies. Prepare to fight for love. To invest in it. To water it until it overflows. Go into marriage believing what God believes: that it is good, very good, and worth your all.

And if you’ve already believed this lie, today is the day to renounce it. You were not created for dull love. You were created for a fiery covenant that reflects the joy of heaven.

 

11. “After the wedding, you’ll start finding your spouse irritating. It’s just natural.”

This one? This one is so dangerous, so subtle, and so normalized in conversations, even among so-called elders. The idea that once the wedding hype settles, you’ll start to notice everything wrong with your spouse. You’ll suddenly feel turned off. Irritated. Disgusted. And what’s worse? They say it like it’s completely normal.

But sis, that is not the voice of your Father. That is the voice of the serpent in Eden.

The devil does not wait for you to get married before he starts sowing these seeds. No. He begins long before. Through experiences you observe, through offhand comments, through sarcastic jokes, through elders who sound wise but are echoing hell. He programs your expectations before your feet even touch the aisle.

And if you’re not spiritually alert, you’ll enter your marriage already bound to a pattern. You’ll start expecting irritation, waiting for disgust, anticipating emotional detachment. But the question is: Who told you that? Who said it has to be so?

Did your Heavenly Father say it?
Did His Word declare it?
Did He ordain marriage to descend into revulsion?

No, sis. Absolutely not. God didn’t design marriage for your spouse to become a repellent. He designed it for you both to behold each other in love, to grow in grace, to see each other through His eyes, and to be changed by the beauty of covenant.

If you’re already married and you’ve felt this wave of disgust rise for your spouse, don’t settle. That’s not your new normal. That’s an invasion from hell. Pray. Rebuke it. Replace it with truth. And if you’re not yet married, you pray against it now. Don’t entertain it for a second. The marriage God designed isn’t one of irritation. It’s one of continual revelation, where you keep discovering layers of love, wonder, beauty, and purpose in your partner day by day.

THE DANGER OF SWALLOWING THE DEVIL’S LIES 

Dear sister, the danger of believing Satan’s lies is that you don’t even realize it, but you’re walking into marriage already defeated. You’re already preparing for disaster. You’re already expecting a downfall. You are building mental pictures of when the love will dwindle, when the butterflies will die, when you’ll lose yourself, when your spouse will start changing, when you’ll fall back on your hobbies as a coping mechanism. You haven’t even stepped into covenant and yet you’re already rehearsing for divorce. You’re anticipating pain. You’re bracing for war. You are marrying in fear, not in faith.

And that’s exactly how the enemy likes it, crafty, subtle, slow. He doesn’t barge in with horns and fire. No, he whispers. He uses experiences around you. He borrows the voices of family and friends. He uses “facts,” statistics, and even “elders” to water your faith down and fill your heart with suspicion. You may think you’re just being “realistic” or “wise.” But sis, you’re actually rehearsing defeat. You’re lowering your expectations to match hell’s projections.

I remember it clearly. Before I got married, I heard those lies too. I listened to them. I saw people’s experiences. And if I wasn’t spiritually awake, I would have walked into marriage already broken by the stories I had absorbed. But God, yes, God in His mercy, preserved me. It wasn’t that the devil didn’t try. Oh, he did. Even after wedding, he still came with discouragement, weariness, and strange thoughts. But one thing I always did, and I encourage you to do the same, I prayed. I fought. I warred. Not with the people speaking, but with the spirits behind the lies.

Any time I heard a lie that didn’t align with Scripture, I got on my knees and said, “No, Lord. That’s not my portion. That’s not Your design.” Because when God made marriage, He looked at it and said, “It is very good.” Why then should I expect a marriage that is dry, dull, and lifeless? Why should I believe that the one I love will someday become a burden? Why should I accept that I’ll marry a man only to return to my hobbies for fulfillment?

No, sis. That’s not God’s plan.

And that’s why I will never stop prescribing prayers. Prayers work. Those prayers I prayed in my single years? They are still speaking today. They built walls. They scattered altars. They prepared me spiritually. They helped me enter marriage not as a casualty, but as a warrior. Because when lies fall from the lips of darkness, your knees must hit the floor!!!

Don’t believe the devil, sister. Rise and fight before the altar is ever raised. That’s what it means to be a prepared bride.

 

SPIRITUAL ATTACKS

When Lies Fail, He Attacks

Dear sister, the enemy is not just a deceiver, he is a killer. His goal is far beyond distraction. He wants to destroy everything God loves about your marriage. When he sees two people walking in divine alignment, united in purpose and passion, when he smells the sweet fragrance of God’s destiny rising from a union, when he hears the sound of a new generation about to be birthed, he sends fire. Not the fire of God’s refining presence, but a ruthless, merciless fire meant to burn, scar, and consume.

And what are the weapons he wields? What tools does he use to bring destruction to what God has ordained?

 

1. Sudden Death

Oh, how he loves this one. You’ve seen it. A beautiful couple. Fresh in love. Glorious future ahead. And then, like a thief in the night, death strikes. The husband dies. The wife becomes a young widow. It is not just coincidence, it is warfare. I once heard a story very close to home. A young couple, just starting their life. Their love was radiant. Their destiny together was undeniable. But one day, death walked in. The man died. Just like that. A young woman left alone with her son. But Satan was not finished. As though the first blow wasn’t enough, this sister entered a vehicle, and the next thing, an accident. A strange, targeted accident. Among everyone in that car, only she died. Only her. Why? Because hell doesn’t just hate individuals, it hates prophetic unions. He wanted her completely wiped out. She had to be stopped. Her marital destiny was a threat.

 

2. Sickness and Prolonged Affliction

Many marriages today are under the siege of strange sicknesses. Unexplainable illnesses that rise up shortly after the wedding bells. Sometimes it’s fibroids. Other times it’s rare diseases. Sometimes it’s mental breakdowns. And the goal is to weaken the marriage, drain finances, and make one spouse emotionally or physically unavailable for love, intimacy, or purpose. The devil plants sickness not just in the body, but in the joy of a home.

 

3. Multiple Miscarriages and Barrenness

This one? It’s ancient. The devil knows that children born out of covenant carry fire. He remembers Moses. He remembers Samuel. He remembers Jesus. So what does he do? He attacks the womb. Miscarriages that feel like mysterious patterns. Barrenness that cannot be explained medically. Pain after pain. Delay after delay. And many times, bitterness begins to brew in the couple’s hearts, leading to disunity and broken fellowship. That’s what he wants.

 

4. Financial Attacks and Generational Poverty

He strikes the finances, because when there is no provision, love begins to starve. Vision gets blurry. Faith becomes hard. And families begin to crumble under pressure. It’s not always mismanagement. Sometimes, it’s a deliberate demonic embargo on a couple’s progress, just to strangle the destiny of their union.

 

5. Spiritual Interference and External Manipulations

Strange dreams. Family members trying to control decisions. In-laws rising up like Pharaoh. Friends sowing discord. Evil altars crying from generations past. Witchcraft. Household powers. Jealous siblings. All of them are foot soldiers of a deeper war to interrupt the divine agenda of that marriage.

 

6. Mental Health Attacks and Emotional Turmoil

Suddenly, the wife is depressed. The husband is angry all the time. Communication becomes impossible. No medical diagnosis can help because it is spiritual. Mental torment has become one of Satan’s latest devices to frustrate unions that carry glory. When the mind breaks down, love begins to feel like a burden.

 

7. Delays and Misalignments

Two people who are meant to be together, ordained by God, are delayed from meeting, or meet but can’t recognize each other. Some are trapped in wrong relationships for years, while their God-ordained spouse is right around the corner. Timing is attacked. Discernment is attacked. Marriages that should have formed are scattered before they start.

 

8. Dream Attacks and Demonic Manipulations

Spiritual husbands. Evil dreams. Constant sexual dreams. Seeing yourself getting married to someone strange in your dream. Demonic seals and soul ties formed in the spirit to keep the person bound from real marital breakthrough. The person wakes up and suddenly feels confused about their earthly relationship. They just “lose peace” with the one God sent.

 

9. Generational Curses and Family Patterns

In some families, women don’t marry early. In others, they marry but never stay married. Some marry and are quickly widowed. Others marry and become barren. These are not just bad luck, they are spiritual altars crying out and resisting covenant. Patterns repeat: what happened to your mother or aunt or sister begins to look familiar in your own life.

 

10. Anti-Marriage Altars and Pronouncements

Wicked pronouncements over your destiny, spoken by envious relatives, wicked guardians, or angry exes can hang in the air like clouds. Words like “she will never marry,” “she will come back to me,” “she will suffer in her husband’s house,” or “her marriage will scatter like mine did.” These words become arrows in the spirit until they are broken by prayer.


11. Spiritual Weakness and Prayerlessness

Perhaps one of the most dangerous strategies: the devil attacks your strength to fight. You know what’s going on, but you’re too weak, too tired, too discouraged to pray. You just “give up” emotionally and that’s the moment the enemy strikes.

 

Dear Single Sister, Go Spiritual!

What stage are you at now, sis? What prayers are you praying? Are you even praying at all? Or are you folding your arms, just waiting for “when God is ready”? Let me share something from my own life, because I know what it means to be in your shoes.

God had spoken clearly to me about marriage. He had shown me glimpses. Given me promises. Described the kind of man He had prepared for me. It wasn’t vague, it was vivid. But years were passing, and there was no sign of him. The promises seemed to be lingering, and my heart was beginning to feel weary. Then, as if to add to the confusion, the devil tried to push in a counterfeit. Oh yes! He waited patiently and packaged someone who looked like it, who sounded like it, someone who even quoted the very words God had spoken to me privately, almost like a confirmation, kai, oh Satan! But deep down, I knew this wasn’t it. Yet I was being pulled. The signs were too similar. My soul was spinning. I was confused. Until God took that out of the way in His mercy. Yet the real one was nowhere to be found. 

But one particular day, I had had enough. I looked at the calendar and felt the sting of delay. And like I always do, I opened my mouth and spoke to God, not in my heart, not in my thoughts, but with my mouth wide open. That’s how I like to do it. And that’s what I advise every daughter of Zion to do, talk to God like He’s right there in front of you, because He is. If only your eyes could open in the spirit, you’d see Him close. You’d sense His nearness.

I said, “Lord, I’m not getting younger. You gave me this desire to be married. I want to build a home for You. But where is the man? Why would You fill my heart with so much hope, and yet nothing is manifesting?” I cried. I questioned. I pressed. And God, so calmly, spoke to my heart: “Lizzy, more than you want to be married, I need you to be married.”

I was stunned. “You need me to be married?” I asked. That was all He said. He didn’t give me the whole blueprint. But those words lit a fire in me. Because I knew, if He needed me to be married, and marriage wasn’t happening, then there was war. There was resistance. There was a battle in the heavenlies trying to block it.

And so I stood up and declared war.

I said, “Lord, if this is war, I won’t fight blindly. Put Your words in my mouth. Don’t let me shoot arrows without direction. Give me prayer points from heaven. Tell me exactly what to pray, and I’ll pray it like a warrior.”

And that’s exactly what He did. He began to load me with divine utterance. I began to pray strategic, laser-focused prayers. I drove into warfare. And soon after, my husband showed up. When we eventually spoke, I told him some of the prayer points I had prayed and guess what? He literally began to tick them off, one by one, saying, “Wow, so that was you! Ah, you were the one scattering things from there?’

Sis, listen to me: you must fight for your promise. You cannot be passive. You cannot afford to say, “Well, whatever will be, will be.” No! Whatever you allow will be. That’s why the devil is bold enough to give you counterfeits. That’s why he’s not ashamed to delay your covenant. That’s why he has turned marriages into battlefields and divorces into statistics. He knows it’s a spiritual agenda and so should you.

This life is spiritual, sis. And if you want to walk in the marital will of God, you must go spiritual too.

So, what stage are you at now? And what prayers are you praying?

 

Sis, It’s Time to Wake Up and War

Can you stop believing the lies the world has sold you? Can you stop scrolling endlessly on social media, picking up tips from trends that only train you to advertise yourself instead of prepare you as a bride of Christ?

That seductive pose. That filtered selfie. That outfit change. That subtle flaunt to “catch a brother’s eye.” You think you’re being strategic. You’ve read it from the psychologists, the relationship coaches, the influencers. But sister, does it align with Scripture? No, it doesn’t. And that means it won’t last.

Because whatever you use to enter into marriage, you’ll have to keep using to sustain it. If it was your brain that manipulated your way in, you’ll need your brain to keep manipulating. If it was your body that attracted him, then you’ll need to keep showcasing it to hold him. If it was your charm, you’ll be caught in a constant performance trap, dancing to keep a man you were never meant to catch that way.

But when it is God who authors your love story, when it is He who draws two hearts together under His covenant, then He stays in the center of that union. He sustains it. He defends it. He refines it. He builds His purpose in and through it.

So, dear sister, I ask you again: what are you doing?

Are you spending your nights on calls with different brothers, emotionally entangling yourself just to see which one sticks? Are you hopping from one virtual “kingdom brother” to another, praying one of them will suddenly see your worth and marry you?

Sister, you are wasting time. You’re being foolish. The labour of the foolish wearies them all… because they do not know the way to the city (Ecclesiastes 10:15). You’re exhausted, anxious, frustrated, not because God has abandoned you, but because you’ve chosen the wrong route.

Drop it. Drop the games. Drop the manipulation. Drop the desperation. Drop the self-advertisement. And get on your knees.

This is not a playground, it’s a battleground. Marriage is not casual, it’s covenantal. The devil isn’t folding his arms and watching you walk into a glorious marriage. He is plotting, scheming, interfering, destroying, right from your single season.

So, can you wake up and start fighting back? Can you pray with fire instead of posting for attention? Can you let go of worldly strategies and pick up your sword? Can you stop comparing timelines with your friends and trust God’s perfect, unique, powerful calendar over your life?

Dear sister, your marriage, if it will glorify God, will not come on a platter of gold. It will come on the altar of prayer. It will come through faith and fire. It will be fought for. And when it comes, it will be worth it.

So now is the time. Put your phone down. Lift your eyes up. Bend your knees low. And go to war. The devil has done enough. It’s your turn now. War back.

 

MARRIED SISTERS, DON’T SLEEP!

Dear sister, just because you are married now doesn’t mean the battle is over. If anything, the real warfare has just begun.

If you are already married and still don’t understand that marriage is warfare, I don’t know what you’re doing. Endless picnics and breakfast in bed? Wake up, sis. The devil is not sleeping. He’s old. He’s strategic. He’s been studying marriages before you were even born. He’s been watching you and your husband since you both were in the womb. He hates your union.

The devil wants you. He wants your husband. He wants your home. He wants your children—born or unborn. He wants your womb. He wants your intimacy to become dry, cold, and frustrating. He wants your communication to become sarcastic, bitter, and broken. He wants your finances to be a desert land. He wants your past to keep resurfacing, haunting your present. He wants your emotions to be unchecked. He wants irritation to set in like a plague, where everything your spouse does annoys you. He wants to twist your mind and twist your man’s mind. He wants to scatter your home, make a mockery of your marriage, and bring your holy covenant into disgrace. He wants to make sure your sex life becomes a battlefield, not a blessing. He wants to sow resentment in your heart so deeply that your love begins to rot at the root. He wants to silence your prayers by filling your home with strife and unrepentance. He wants you to become roommates, not covenant partners. He wants your love to die slowly, as you sip shawarma and post fake couple goals.

And here you are, sleeping!

You and your husband came from different backgrounds, filled with wars, altars, battles, generational issues. And instead of you both rising up as warriors, you’re sitting down acting like it’s all fine, watching Nollywood movies and wearing ‘and-co’.

No, ma! This is not the time to relax. This is the time to war.

You should be holding hands in prayer, not just posing for photos. You should be discerning in the Spirit, not just reading marriage tips online. You should be so spiritually sharpened that when you both sleep, God reveals the devil’s plans in your dreams and you rise up and scatter them!

Sister, stop being casual in covenant. Stop managing a marriage you’re called to dominate in the Spirit. You are not just a bride, you are a watchman. You are a gatekeeper. You and your husband should lift swords together, not just glasses of juice. This marriage is worth fighting for. But you must both know: it will not stand if you don’t fight for it. So, wake up, daughter of Zion.
Your marriage is a threat to hell. Act like it!!!

STIRRING THE WATERS

Dear sister, it is that special moment. 10 good minutes of stirring the waters, of praying in the Holy Ghost. Please gladly take this short pause. Let the instrumental below play and just stir. Don’t rush this. Pray in the Spirit. Abba to Daughter. Spirit to Spirit.

And if you haven’t received the gift of the Holy Spirit yet? This is YOUR TIME! Cry out to Abba:  “Father, fill me! Baptize me! Immerse me in Your Spirit! I need You for life, Holy Spirit, come. Baptize me with the Holy Ghost and Father, please grant me another pentecost in Jesus Name”

Let’s start stirring. 

 

 

TAKE CHARGE

We are daughters, let’s take charge over the territories where we are represented right now. 

Father, by Your mighty Name, I sanctify my body, my home, and my atmosphere right now. I cover myself with the blood of Jesus (Revelation 12:11) and declare every strange spirit, every demonic stronghold, to flee by fire (Psalm 34:7). I cleanse this place and myself from every trace of darkness (2 Corinthians 6:17). Let Your Holy Spirit fill this space and my life with Your perfect peace (Isaiah 26:3). I take authority as Your beloved daughter and refuse to be moved. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

 

START PRAYING

Sis, if you’ve ever prayed before, now is the time to turn it up! You’re not here to joke.

 

 

SECTION 1

Scripture: “You shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free.” – John 8:32

1. O Lord! O Lord! O Lord! Deliver me from every lie that I have believed about love, marriage, submission, and purpose. 
2. I reject the lie that marriage is a trap. I declare that marriage is a blessing, and I will walk into it with joy and discernment. 
3. Every satanic philosophy planted in my heart through songs, series, social media, or my past, catch fire now! 
4. O Lord, uproot from my spirit every mindset that supports manipulation, seduction, emotional games, or self-promotion! 
5. I refuse to use strategy where I should use surrender. I reject fake confidence, counterfeit boldness, and worldly advice. Let my mind be soaked in Scripture and truth, in the name of Jesus!

 

SECTION 2

Scripture: “If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?” – Psalm 11:3

1. O Lord! O Lord! O Lord! Deliver me from every marital pattern that destroyed marriages in my father’s house and mother’s house, in the name of Jesus! 
2. Every ancestral yoke of polygamy, late marriage, barrenness, infidelity, or divorce, scatter by fire in my marriage, in the name of Jesus! 
3. O God of deliverance, break me and my (future) husband/wife loose from every negative foundational altar speaking against our union! 
4. Powers from my lineage that say my marriage must end like theirs, you are a liar, be buried by fire, in the name of Jesus! 
5. Bloodline covenants and curses working silently in my marriage, be revoked by the Blood of Jesus!

 

SECTION 3

Scripture: “For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread…” – Proverbs 6:26

1. O Lord! O Lord! O Lord! Deliver my (fiuture) husband from every strange woman assigned to destroy his destiny and scatter our home! 
2. You spirit of lust, adultery, pornography, fornication, get out of my marriage by fire! 
3. Any jezebelic spirit assigned to seduce my (future) husband and manipulate him, I defeat you today by the Blood of Jesus! 
4. O God arise, set my spouse’s heart on fire for You and for me, in the name of Jesus! 
5. Monitoring spirits using old soul ties and past relationships to torment my marriage, catch fire!

 

SECTION 4

Scripture: “They were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.” – Genesis 2:25

1. O Lord! O Lord! O Lord! Deliver me and my (future) spouse from emotional dryness, coldness, and disconnection, in the name of Jesus! 
2. Every satanic wall between me and my (future) spouse, collapse now, in the name of Jesus! 
3. Father, restore our joy, laughter, and deep companionship in this marriage! 
4. Arrows of miscommunication, misunderstanding, sarcasm, and silence, backfire now! 
5. O Lord, make my marriage a garden of intimacy, peace, and spiritual unity, in the name of Jesus!

 

SECTION 5

Scripture: “But thou shalt remember the Lord thy God: for it is he that giveth thee power to get wealth…” – Deuteronomy 8:18

1. O Lord! O Lord! O Lord! Deliver my marriage from financial dryness and lack, in the name of Jesus! 
2. Every spirit of poverty and begging knocking on the door of my (future) marriage, catch fire and fall into the bottomless pit! 
3. Every satanic embargo on our jobs, businesses, and financial destinies, lift and be consumed by fire in the Name of Jesus! 
4. O Lord, bless the work of our hands and let money begin to locate our covenant home! 
5. Every ancestral curse of “labour without profit” and “money that flies away”, scatter in the name of Jesus!

 

SECTION 6

Scripture: “What God has joined together, let no man put asunder.” – Mark 10:9

1. O Lord! O Lord! O Lord! Let every demonic hand stretched toward my marriage wither by fire, in the name of Jesus! 
2. Household wickedness saying my marriage will not stand, receive the judgment of the Lord now! 
3. O Lord, let the altar of prayer and the Word be revived in my home!  
4. My marriage shall not die emotionally, spiritually, sexually, or financially in the name of Jesus! 
5. I declare: My marriage is soaked in the Blood of Jesus (7x). No power shall destroy it in the Name of Jesus. 

 

SISTERS-IN-WAITING, PRAY THIS EVEN SPECIALLY:

Scripture: “He who finds a wife finds a good thing…” – Proverbs 18:22

1. O Lord! O Lord! O Lord! Deliver me from aimless waiting and prepare me for divine oneness with my future husband! 
2. I reject the pressure to perform. I will not compare my timeline with others. My love story is authored by God! I wait for it in Jesus’ Name.  
3. Any wrong relationship I am entangled in, emotionally, spiritually, or physically, O Lord, disconnect me by fire! 
4. O God, deliver me from premature exposure. Let me not market myself when I should be in the secret place being formed. 
5. Every Jezebelic or Delilah-like spirit hanging around my life or future spouse, O Lord, scatter them without remedy! 
6. Lord, raise in me a heart that is kingdom-minded, battle-ready, and love-rooted. Let me not enter marriage with shallow thinking but with depth and grace.

 

MARRIED SISTERS, THIS IS FOR YOU:

Scripture: “Two are better than one… for they have a good reward for their labor.” – Ecclesiastes 4:9

1. O Lord! O Lord! O Lord! I will not sleep spiritually while my home burns. Wake me up! 
2. Fire of God, fall upon the altar of our marriage. Let prayer rise again! Let love rise again! Let joy rise again! 
3. Every agenda of hell to turn my home into a war zone, be reversed in the name of Jesus! 
4. I refuse to manage a marriage that You’ve called me to rule in the Spirit. I take back my territory! 
5. My husband shall not be manipulated! His heart shall not be stolen by strange women. His destiny shall not be wasted! 
6. I decree healing over our communication, restoration in our intimacy, and alignment in our assignment. Let every crack be sealed by the Blood of Jesus.

 

Now declare these aloud: 

I declare that my life, my marriage, and my destiny shall not serve the devil’s entertainment. My heart is aligned with the will of God. My womb shall not carry sorrow. My love story shall not be polluted. I am not desperate, I am delivered. I am not manipulative, I am yielded. I am not just waiting, I am warring.

I declare that I am not for sale. I am not for seduction. I am not for trend. I am for covenant. I am for kingdom. I am a gatekeeper, a watchman, and a warrior. I cover my future and present with fire. No serpent will crawl into my Eden. No stranger will sit in my place.

I declare that my husband (whether current or coming) is covered. He is sensitive. He is strong. He is holy. He loves Jesus. He will not fall into traps. He will not be snared by counterfeit women. He will love me with the love of Christ, and I will honor him in joy and truth.

I declare that my marriage shall be a model of Heaven on earth. Our union shall terrify hell. Our love shall win souls. Our home shall be an altar. Our bed shall be pure. Our children shall be arrows. Our money shall be mission-driven. Our joy shall be full.

NOT MY MARRIAGE, SATAN! You came too late. I have seen the light. I have picked up my sword. I am not afraid of war, I was born for it. My marriage shall glorify God, and the gates of hell shall not prevail! I declare these in the Name of Jesus.

 

STANDING IN THE GAP

Now, please intercede. Stand in the gap for others. Take these as if they were yours:

ONE: My request is for my family to be free of debt, for the debts I’m owing financial institutions to be cleared, and my payslip back to normal. My parents to stop getting into debts. My sister to be freed from the gambling spirit and borrowing or stealing to do so, keeping us in debt for us to get her out of it. For my bussiness to attract good customers, and begin to progress and leave people who want to get things in credit and never pay. For my home to be filled with abundant food and we stop living from hand to mouth.

 

TWO:I’m Mrs Williams Ruth. Please,I covet your prayers, I’m presently in school, and beginning a new semester,there was no money to pay my fees,and the extension they gave expired since on Sunday, please, kindly join faith with me in prayers for God to touch the school management to kindly reconsider and reopen the portal to enable me pay,as I don’t intend to defer the semester, please,the week is running out, and I promise to come back with my testimony.

 

THREE:I’m a fresh medical school graduate. I’m trusting God for internship placement at a medical facility here in Lagos, please join me pray that God will make it happen and grant my application favour in the eyes of those selecting interns.

 

FOUR: I am a midwifery student and I have mid exams by the end of this month and PTS exams by September. We are the last set to do midwifery as a specialty which means no hope of moving forward from here once one fails exams.
All I want from God this period is to come through for me. Every spirit of forgetting what I have read in exam hall to remember it once I step out from exam hall . God will deliver me 🙏🙏 Amen

 

Round off with thanksgiving, 

 

FATHER’S CORNER

Let the instrumental below play freely while you talk to God. Imagine Him seated right before you. Now, start to talk to Him like you can see Him. Heaven is open. Your Father is right before you. Ask away! Ask real things, meat, not chaff. It’s you and Him now. Spend this 10 minutes well, unrushed. spend more time if you so desire but make sure you spend time with your father. I can promise you before July ends, you’d start to have encounters you never knew existed! Ayaaa… Just open your mouth and let it pour! Amen!

Round off with thanksgiving when you are done. 

 

ANNOUNCEMENT:

Don’t forget! Our Juicy July Bible Study holds tonight at 9PM (WAT) on Google Meet (Ladies only). If you registered to join us, you should have the link already. If you are unable to join us, just make sure you study the passage. 

Text for today: John 9

See you there, beautiful daughter of my Father!

 

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